Post Date December, 02 2023
In China, there is an old saying "fight at the head of the bed and fight at the end of the bed". Couples spend the most time together, and problems inevitably arise. If the process of repeatedly quarreling and making up, the feelings between couples will soon be exhausted, and both parties will be indifferent to each other. Negative waiting for the other party to change can only accelerate the destruction of marriage. The best way is to act. Today, let's give you five best rules for couples to get along with.
Treat each other as a guest and raise the eyebrows
With respect to each other, it is the appearance of happy marriage in the traditional Chinese culture, which is just applicable to modern society. Married people treat strangers better than their partners. Dr. Lena once received counseling from a couple, who would accuse each other with their throats as long as they were alone. So Lena suggested that one of their colleagues move in and live with them for several months. As a result, the couple became respectful of each other. In this regard, Dr. Lena pointed out that imagining a guest living in the home will greatly improve the ability of the partner to control their own emotions.
Less criticism and attack
After seeing each other's shortcomings, many couples, regardless of their partner's feelings, accuse each other. As the two people become more familiar with each other, the words of praise are less and more, but the words of criticism are more and more. No one can tolerate a marriage where criticism is better than appreciation. So both husband and wife should keep their mouths shut. Ideally, they should criticize each other at most once a day.
Calm and efficient husband and wife communication
When arguing, try to be calm and express your thoughts in three sentences. Many men are afraid of falling into endless quarrels. What bothers men most is the speed, number of sentences and volume of women when they are angry. So turn down the volume and speak slowly, and try to express your meaning in three sentences. This can not only avoid quarrels, but also improve communication efficiency.
Always remember to praise others
Often find the advantages of your partner and praise them, which not only increases the feelings of the couple, but also strengthens the confidence of the other party. We often encourage children to form good habits through praise, but we forget to apply this to our partners. In addition, you can often do things that make your partner feel loved and cherished, such as washing dishes for each other, washing feet for each other... Small things often warm each other's heart.
Listen to your partner's happiness and sorrow
After struggling outside for a day, your partner may have many grievances and worries. At this time, quiet listening is the best way. When both sides are relaxed, it is easy to accept what they say. When one party is hot or eloquent, the best way is to listen quietly first.
(Intern editor: Lai Jiaxing)
