Post Date December, 03 2023
Men are always considered open-minded, so whether they are wives, colleagues, or friends, they always point out their dissatisfaction with the men around them without hesitation. The director of the Evaluation Department of the Mental Health Promotion Center of the Institute of Psychology of the Chinese Academy of Sciences pointed out that men are actually "face animals", and the biggest harm to their self-esteem is often not from difficulties and poverty, but some casual words in life.
5 things that really hurt a man's self-esteem
1. Public Life Privacy
When women get together, they enjoy discussing their husband's shortcomings tirelessly, even sharing their private life with their best friends, and sharing the unhappiness of their marital life with others. This makes men feel that their secrets are no longer secrets, and they are also used as a post dinner conversation topic, which can easily affect their marital relationship.
2. Be indifferent when he boasts
Men may have some heroic dreams, occasionally showing off their past glory to colleagues, friends, or partners. If the other party doesn't respond at this point, or says things like 'it's nothing' or 'boring', then the man's psychology will inevitably feel lost.
3. Evaluate him for being narrow-minded or timid
Everyone is afraid of being accused of their weaknesses, for example, the poor are afraid of being accused of being poor, and the nouveau riche are afraid of being accused of being uneducated. For men, being perceived as lacking broad mindedness or timidity is the most shameless. Whether female colleagues, classmates, or buddies, whether intentional or unintentional, such evaluations can greatly damage a man's self-esteem. Especially when he hears these words from his wife, he will feel that even the closest person does not respect him, and his killing power is even greater.
4. Bringing up his embarrassing incident in public
Regardless of gender, there are always people who like to expose their shortcomings in public places, such as "sharing a room with Xiao Wang on a business trip and getting dizzy from his feet" or "Xiao Li likes to pick his nose when he has nothing to do". Although it does not involve principles, it can greatly undermine a man's conscious image. Some people like to make fun of their male colleagues and boyfriends' positions and income, which can make them feel that their abilities are being denied and their self-esteem is hurt. In addition, frequently asking single men about their emotional issues, whether out of kindness or malice, can be very embarrassing.
5. Praising another man in front of him
If a wife admires celebrities such as Beckham and Tom Cruise, it is believed that the vast majority of men will not be unhappy because it is far from their own lives. But if a wife or a well connected female colleague often praises her male colleague or his buddies or brothers in front of a man, it will greatly hurt the man's self-esteem. It's like being compared to a neighbor's child by parents when you're young, the closer you get, the more embarrassing it becomes.
