Post Date December, 03 2023
Chatting with a friend, we talked about the topic of trust in our relationship. She said a paragraph that we all agree with: 'Men, those who cannot be trusted will never be trusted, and those who can be trusted will never be checked for attendance.'. So trust is mutual, and one should have confidence in oneself. Only then can freedom and autonomy be achieved!
Yes, the people you really can trust, you will not be suspicious, self-deception, and the people you can't trust, no matter how ostrich mentality, self hypnosis, and continuous forgiveness, you will still not believe him in the end.
Looking back on the relationships we once talked about, we were all the ones who hated us the most, doing the things you didn't want to do the most, checking attendance, managing him, peeking at his phone, even tracking him, wanting to catch something... At that time, we hated what we did and also hated ourselves. Why do we love someone we don't trust from the bottom of our hearts?
The incident of checking attendance and peeking at your phone indicates that you do not trust him or this relationship in your heart. So, it's actually a matter of time before a relationship fails. Even if you still struggle to be together, living a life of catching a monkey is not happy at all. Even together, love is still dead.
In fact, we are just unwilling to admit that we have fallen in love with the wrong person and made the wrong choice, so we constantly strive to correct it and make it right. But many experiences also tell us that what is wrong is wrong, no matter how hard you try, you ultimately have to admit that choice is more important than effort.
You may have also talked about the relationship between two people who do not trust each other, always arguing and investigating endlessly. The life between spies and spies is as painful as this kind of love.
You may also be doing well, encountering a person with a super delusional delusion of being victimized. You are said to be busy with everything, and you are busy with work. He keeps calling and bothering you. You make yourself crazy by accepting his attendance calls and distrust inquiries every day. Finally, you realize that you are unable to take care of a victim of delusional disorder, and the sense of security you provide is never enough, but the problem is not really with you.
You think you are upright and righteous in your relationship. You need to defend love and protect your own rights, so when you encounter someone who is ambiguous outside, someone who has the opportunity to chat with, someone who has a good impression of him... or even a third party who is outside, you scold the other party, scold him... and feel that defending love sovereignty is the right thing. But in hindsight, isn't this tiring? Looking back after breaking up, it's really stupid.
If he really loves you enough, does he still need you to defend love? Do you still need to curse? What you defend is not true love, not someone worth your love. People who don't love you enough, are half hearted, and love to play and eat, would have left you. Finally, you will realize that you are truly wasting your life in a farce.
Perhaps one day, when you fall in love with the right person and talk about feelings that make you trust and happy, you will understand that the difference is so great.
Originally, the right person and love make you feel good, confident, and truly happy. The hardships suffered for love in the past did not make you achieve success, but rather made you more aware of what kind of person should not be loved.
The most important thing in a relationship is trust and confidence. You trust him, and you also trust yourself. The two are like the two ends of a Libra. The more confident you are in yourself, the more you can attract someone who can give you confidence.
Some people lack confidence in themselves and are afraid that they will not receive love, so they are particularly infatuated with those who do not love them enough but deceive them in the name of love. Because I am too eager for love, just like a drowning person, when they see a driftwood, they hold onto it tightly, thinking that the other person loves them, they hold onto it tightly and love with force. But in this way, it's easy to encounter the wrong love and get hurt.
My life experience has taught me that when you want love, you are not pursuing it, hoping that others will give you love. Instead, you need to focus and focus on yourself first, and you need to be able to give yourself what you want first, rather than asking or arguing with others. Don't beg for warmth from someone who doesn't love you.
Don't ask others for the security, happiness, and happiness you want. You must first learn to give yourself, live a good life, work hard, enhance your inner strength, and fill your heart with love. As an old saying goes: You can afford what you have, and you're not afraid of no one giving you.
You want to gain trust in love, you are not going to seek someone and command them: you must make sure to make me trust you. Or complain that there is no one you can trust in the world, or say that men are not worth trusting... negative words, but first, you need to give yourself confidence. Build confidence in yourself and your emotions.
Find confidence in yourself first, and in the future, you can find trust in love.
Don't think that you must find confidence in love, only by gaining recognition and love from the other person can you have confidence. But, whether you have love or not, you can always be a confident person.
Confidence is not about being a perfect person, but finding one's strengths and expertise, striving to exert and improve oneself, believing in shortcomings, and striving to overcome shortcomings. Your confidence comes from your own efforts.
I often say, first learn to make yourself happy, and the happiness you want will come. So, first establish your own confidence and cultivate your own vision, then you can talk about a trustworthy love.
Even if there are unforeseen circumstances, any unexpected emotions, or any changes over time, you will not lose confidence because of losing your relationship. First, strive to be a confident person, and then love someone who is worthy of your trust. Believe in yourself, believe in love, that is the most beautiful balance!
