Post Date December, 02 2023
Yan Lan and Kaohsiung are a young couple who have been married for less than half a year. They met through a friend's introduction. The elegant and beautiful Yan Lan brightened the eyes of Kaohsiung in front of them. Kaohsiung is the owner of a bar, and he often wanders in the bar. After playing all the girls in the bar, he sees Yan Lan having a different feeling.
At this time, Kaohsiung, who was handsome and quite gentlemanly, also gave Yan Lan an indescribable liking. A few months later, they fell in love and walked towards the palace of marriage.
When they were in love, Kaohsiung really seemed like a different person, rarely going to bars again. However, after they had been married for a year, Kaohsiung seemed to have returned to the original state of life, and every night when he came back, without exception, he was fuming with alcohol. His unbridled and lustful personality revealed itself after marriage. Yan Lan, who had lived in a scholarly environment since childhood, gradually understood Kaohsiung's bohemian personality and became heartbroken. Unable to convince herself, she finally divorced Kaohsiung due to a personality incompatibility.
In marriage, there is indeed nothing wrong with maintaining one's unique personality, and even a lack of personality can make the other person feel monotonous and tedious. However, we have to pay attention to the fact that dissolute and even bad personality and temperament are important incentives for marital conflict.
There is a saying that "as a woman in this kind of marriage, don't expect to change this man. You need to calculate the benefits and losses of marriage and ultimately choose whether to accept this man's true colors or improve yourself." Indeed, this is a way of getting along, but it should be the way to choose when the other person's personality is not too unusual. Before getting married, if we have already seen the true personality of the other person clearly, and if we think we can accept his or her personality, then we can choose to marry him or her. On the contrary, do not embark on this contradictory path.
In fact, marriage is also a result of people's mutual choice. Before getting married, if you want to feel that the other person's is not suitable for you, then even if you like it again, don't choose not to be inferior to the marriage palace; After marriage, if you find that you can't really get along with people with this personality, perhaps divorce is not a bad thing, because the end of marriage at this time may be the beginning of the next happy period.
(Intern editor: Lai Jiaxing)
