Post Date December, 03 2023
Extramarital love: virtuous women fight against the third rule
The husband left his "prison" home
We painted the walls and pasted the floor tiles ourselves, and reconstructed the small kitchen next to us. Make delicious food in a small but warm home. Love is lingering in the evening, and life is happy and happy.
But the quiet life has been chaotic since our daughter was born and we moved to our parents' house.
"Would you like to take a short bath? Water and electricity are very expensive." "If you have something to talk about in class, try not to let outsiders call home. It's very noisy.". Because our daughter spends a lot of money, we only give our parents 700 yuan a month, and they make up a lot for us in life. In addition, the different living habits of each other also make the elderly often complain, which makes Jiang Tao very uncomfortable.
Moreover, my parents are very capable, one cleaning the house, the other buying vegetables and cooking, and all the housework. I also take care of my daughter, so he seldom stays at home.
He said that he helped his friends do private work outside, but he didn't get paid for it. I couldn't help but scold him: "You can see people without money. What do you think you can bring to my family?" My mother also put pressure on him, "You are still young and earn just enough money to live for your mother and son. You have to work hard!"
In fact, our family has the habit of speaking. We often speak with thorns, but there is no malice. But in Jiang Tao's view, my family suffocated him like a prison. He has repeatedly advised me: "Let's go back to the bungalow. After I change jobs, I will earn more money to buy a house with a loan."
No! I have no hope of becoming a "rich lady" in this life, and I think that my daughter's living in the building is more beneficial to her health.
We began to fight about whether to move, and my parents also helped me. One day, when everyone turned their faces, my mother even pushed and jostled with Jiang Tao. Her old man said, "I have to bow my head when I am under the eaves", which made Jiang Tao angry, so he packed up his belongings and moved away from my house.
Calmly look for the reason for her husband's affair
To my great surprise, one month later, I learned from his friend that he had a woman who was "out of town", and both of them lived together in the bungalow in Niujie.
At the beginning, I was dubious. I thought that "one day a couple will be grateful for one hundred days". It is not so easy for two people to break up their relationship, especially with children.
But when I quietly came to Niu Street, opened the door and saw that the pots and pans in the room and the table on the bed were all filled with a strong flavor of life, tears flowed down immediately, and my faith in love collapsed instantly.
I angrily dialed his mobile phone, but as soon as I said "Hello", I felt that my throat was blocked, so I hung up. I felt my heart beating wildly and told myself: "Calm down when things happen, and don't do anything absolutely."
I usually read many marriage stories, but I don't want many women to cry and struggle when they learn that their husband has an affair. The marriage did not come to an end, but because they ignored the dignity of their husbands and made trouble, they accelerated the dissolution of the marriage.
I think I need to understand the details of the "third party" before I can communicate with my husband. So I turned over the documents on the table and the open suitcase, and saw the woman's beautiful handwriting and work log, as well as some living things. I concluded that she was a colleague or client of Jiang Tao and had a certain level of culture and taste. It is estimated that she would not hurt me by pestering him.
I found my neighbor in the same courtyard again, and someone told me mysteriously: "The woman came here twice a week. She is about the same age as you, but she is not as good as you. She looks like she has had a baby."
My heart was small and steady for a while, and I thought that if the other side was a beautiful young girl, I would have no advantage in dueling with them. Now, the opponent's condition is average, I should have the hope of winning.
The room remained the same. I locked the door and went back to my parents' house. Don't mention the matter to the old people, because they are afraid to find Jiang Tao to judge them. I don't want to spread the battlefield of marriage too large. I prefer to find reasons from myself.
First of all, I think men want face, but Jiang Tao and I both live in bungalows and buildings, which are my parents'. Jiang Tao always sighed with me, feeling that he could not lift his head in front of the old man, and his desire to escape from "prison" was always strong.
In addition, after having a daughter, I put all my energy on the child and cared too much about her health. As soon as Jiang Tao came home, I shouted, "Wash your hands and change your clothes, and don't bring infectious diseases to the child."
He always complains about me, saying that my daughter is the center of my family, and I am the center of my parents. He is the only one outside the center of the family. Everyone is indifferent to him and feels dispensable.
I didn't care what he said. Now I think, he really can't find the feeling of integration with my family, and he is bored with life. I guess he doesn't love me and my daughter, but he can't find a platform to love us.
In addition, when we live alone, although I am very capable, I will also be a "little bird" and use tenderness as the lubricant of feelings. But after I moved in with my parents, I returned to the status of an only child. I was headstrong with my parents and even bossed Jiang Tao around. For example, he complained that the clothes he bought for his daughter were not practical, and that he was not allowed to sleep late on weekends.
Now think about it, no husband is willing to listen to his wife shouting, nagging and forcing him to do this or that. He must be tired and tired of marriage. Find a considerate woman to ease his mood. This can also be seen from the spotless home environment of Niujie. The woman is very virtuous and has built the "pigeon nest" very warm, which is more comfortable than when we lived before.
After thinking about this, I decided to play dumb and deaf to his cheating, quietly bring my daughter back to him, rebuild a space that belongs to us, use tenderness to influence him, and let him exercise responsibility for us.
