Post Date November, 17 2024
Education that Loves Awkwardness
Teacher Hu's lecture starts with her own story. Teacher Hu's family had a special period when his 4-year-old son was interested in everyone's health, so authoritative parents and grandmothers ordered the family not to close the door even when taking a shower. Every day when someone takes a shower, the little man sits at the restroom door with a bench and waits, watching a movie. After others take a shower, he carries the bench and starts playing on his own.
British psychologist Hafflock Langley believes that if a child has not seen the naked form of a child of the opposite sex when they are young, it may cause pathological curiosity. Teacher Hu said that when the 7-year-old boy first saw his mother's nudity, he cried and said, "Dad, come and save her. Mom doesn't have a chicken, she can't pee anymore. In the lower grades of elementary school, some children believed that girls, like boys, were born as chickens. The third grade boy told Teacher Hu that his mother's breasts were blue. When I asked again, I knew that his mother had been wearing a blue bra.
The children's vague and misunderstood understanding of their bodies has made Teacher Hu sad and also made parents, including journalists, reflect. Teacher Hu suggests naturally telling children the correct names of body organs and the social order of adults. For example, you cannot touch your mother's breasts. Because my mother is my father's woman. When children are still unable to understand and accept the social order of adults, parents should be more patient and wait for their children to grow up.
If a couple has sexual intercourse, let the three person relationship change, let the two person relationship change
In Teacher Hu's blog or column, parents expressed their opinions on whether to avoid children having this problem when couples have sexual relations. Some parents think their children are too young and wait for them to sleep. Those who are fine feel that it's okay, while others say they can't help it. The family has no conditions to let their children break up. The father was worried that his daughter would wake up and not be able to have sex because he had been sleeping with them all the time. The mother of a 3-year-old child asked, 'When she was very close to her lover, the child suddenly woke up and said,' Mom, what are you and Dad doing? '?
Teacher Hu emphasized that when children see or hear their parents having sex, the scene and sound of sex will be deeply imprinted in their minds, which will awaken their sexual awareness and impulse. Some children start masturbating or exacerbate masturbation. Some children may be frightened by the scene at the time, believing that their father is exerting violence against their mother, thereby changing the heart shape of their father and mother.
