Post Date December, 03 2023
Li Jun feels that every time he accompanies his wife to go shopping, it is very painful. Although young and beautiful are common to all girls, his wife Zhao Ran is really beautiful. I have accompanied her several times to visit the West City and the East City, from going out in the morning until the evening. Shopping is really a waste of money and labor. Over time, they always couldn't help but complain. The two of them often turned their backs on shopping, but they had a fight at the end of the bed.
Although Li Jun is reluctant to go shopping in various ways, every time he faces his wife's arrogance and domineering behavior, he still has to bravely take action. Later on, Li Jun learned a trick from his friends to "battle wits" with his wife. My wife once came out of the fitting room and asked him, "Husband, how does this yellow dress look on me?" "Hmm, it's good!" "What about the red one?" "Beautiful!" "Is the blue one better?" "Hmm, yes
My wife saw Li Jun's impatience and angrily said, "Why don't you say it all right? Hurry up and tell the truth, which one is better?" At this moment, Li Jun replied in a panic, "I think you should choose a bigger size. Look at your big belly and thick arms, I'm telling the truth..." Before Li Jun finished speaking, my wife angrily threw down her clothes and left. From then on, she no longer wants Li Jun to accompany him shopping.
The key to resolving conflicts between couples lies in consultation
When couples have conflicts over trivial matters, it often leads to disputes. Unreasonable couples may think of using "intellectual warfare" to solve their problems and achieve the goal of satisfying their own desires. But in the end, both parties may become victims of the conflict, causing unnecessary anger and dissatisfaction, and even generating hostility towards the other party.
In fact, the key to resolving conflicts between couples is to learn to negotiate and express one's opinions on the causes of conflicts. In the story, when the husband is dissatisfied with accompanying his wife shopping, he can simply tell her that he doesn't like shopping, tell him that he likes to rest at home, and show her his determination not to go shopping. Then listen to her opinion on shopping again. If a woman wants her husband to accompany her shopping, it's just a lack of people to accompany her shopping and a need for someone to do shopping for her. At this point, you can help her come up with ideas, hang out with her friends or colleagues, and gently hand over your credit card. I believe she will be happy and ready to go out.
A "smart fight" companion, stealing a chicken will not erode the rice
On the surface, 'intellectual warfare' seems to not harm the other party, but rather expresses one's opinions in a tactful and tortuous manner, but sometimes it can transform into the effect of 'stealing the chicken but not eroding the rice'. Because 'intellectual warfare' often involves a struggle for power, and this intention is very obvious, which can hurt people even more than expressing dissatisfaction directly to the other party.
When your plan is seen through by the other party, it may even cause them to lose their temper, sulk, or even retaliate. In this way, it's really time for retribution. To avoid "intellectual conflict" between couples, it is necessary to not view oneself as an innocent victim, not pursue who caused the incident, and give up the idea of finding excuses to retaliate. In the face of conflicts, it is advisable to focus on solving the problem, and both parties should actively communicate and understand each other.
(Intern Editor: Lai Jiaxing)
