Post Date December, 03 2023
As the saying goes, "Love is a fight between two people, and marriage is a fight between two families." Not long ago, Wang Luodan exposed his fear of marriage. Nowadays, fear of marriage is not only reserved for women, but also for men. Fear of marriage often occurs in the age range of 25-30 years old, with white-collar workers around 30 years old with higher incomes and longer periods of love (or cohabitation) being particularly severe. So, why do men fear marriage and escape reality?
In some marital relationships, many emotions of young men begin to decline on the day of marriage, manifested as nervousness, anxiety, and confusion, thus wanting to escape reality. Entering a marriage from reality would have left a person at a certain level at a loss, while surrounding family and friends would have a vague concept or explanation of their inner thoughts, causing them to experience nameless guilt and fear.
In the face of cruel reality, many men and women stop outside of marriage and dare not step into the trap of marriage, fearing that walking into the besieged city would bury their years of sweet love and their happiness. When falling in love, one is only faced with the pure love between two people, and marriage is simply a "game" between two families.
Marriage is originally a great joy, but in some ways it is a "torment" for the groom and his family. From decorating the new house, to organizing the wedding, to the wedding ceremony, many aspects are borne by the man alone. If you encounter a friendly female family, it's still lucky, but if you encounter a picky family, it's enough for you to suffer.
Just getting married, men are prone to develop a resistance mentality, which is not childish and irresponsible, but a normal inner impulse. Many families, especially in China, once a man reaches his twenties, their family begins to urge him to get married, which is the beginning of a fear of marriage for men because they feel that their ideas about marriage are not yet mature, but they are urged by their parents to make themselves more resistant to marriage under pressure.
In some marital relationships, many emotions of young men begin to decline on the day of marriage, manifested as nervousness, anxiety, and confusion, thus wanting to escape reality. Entering a marriage from reality would have left a person at a certain level at a loss, while surrounding family and friends would have a vague concept or explanation of their inner thoughts, causing them to experience nameless guilt and fear.
Although after marriage, I gradually realized that I was not so afraid, it can also affect the relationship between the two parties due to a psychological fear that started before and after marriage.
Men have significantly different attitudes and psychological characteristics in love and after marriage. In love, men always form a feeling that women are weak, so they generally care and take care of them. Women are also taught by the idea of not being too proactive towards the men they like, which can lead to dependency and a seemingly weak appearance.
However, when the wife happily prepares meals and boils the bath water for her husband for a period of time after marriage, he may naturally take it for granted, as it is. If one day there is no such thing, he will ask in confusion, "Why didn't you boil the bath water today?" In his opinion, "I work, you eat" is already a pattern.
Until one day his wife would also ask, "Occasionally, let's eat out." He would start muttering in his heart, "What a person who loves to spend money recklessly." and "I'm really confused about finding such a lazy person." Men who get married mostly rely on a practical principle.
In short, here is a warm reminder from the editor: friends must always be vigilant about marriage phobia, maintain a healthy attitude, and also do a good job in health care, actively pursuing their own happiness.
(Intern Editor: Cai Junyi)
