Post Date December, 03 2023
I once watched a program interviewed by Chai Jing about the love of Rao Pingru, a 90-year-old old man, to his wife. After the death of his wife, Meitang, Rao Pingru drew 18 albums of paintings by hand, describing the nearly 60 years from the first time he met Meitang. After reading it, a kind of unspeakable emotion surged in his heart. It is hard to imagine that a big man would have such a fragile and naive heart. That kind of persistent love has accompanied him and his wife all his life.
Rao Pingru was only 26 years old when he met his wife and graduated from Huangpu Military Academy. The two were engaged and married under the arrangement of their parents. In 1958, Rao Pingru was rehabilitated through labor. In order to draw a clear line, Meitang showed the frankness of a Shanghai girl, "First, he is not a traitor and a traitor, second, he is not corrupt, and third, he is not stealing cards. I know who this person is, and how can I divorce him." Later, Rao Pingru went to Anhui for labor reform, and can only come back once a year for 22 years. Rao Pingru pasted all the letters written by his wife in the picture album. There are almost no words of emotion in these letters. They are all about hard life, making food, letting children participate in work, finding objects
In 1992, Meitang's kidney disease worsened. Rao Pingru pushed off the work of the CPPCC and took full care of his wife. Get up at 5 o'clock, comb her hair, wash her face, cook, and do abdominal dialysis four times a day... She gradually stops cooperating in pain and starts pulling out the tubes from time to time. Rao Pingru's painting advised his wife not to pull the pipe, but later he could only bind her hand. The wife finally went, and Rao Pingru left a strand of her hair as a souvenir.
Couples learn to live together
Rao Pingru's love for his wife makes people envious. Behind the envy, people think of their life between husband and wife. Behind today's bustling cities, emotion seems to have become people's sustenance. After every busy day, they always hope to find spiritual comfort in their lovers at night. However, sometimes people often find not comfort, but more painful suffering, complaints, nagging, beating and scolding, quarreling, and the home seems to become a "battlefield", with the smell of gunpowder everywhere. For the house, for the car, for the children, and to earn more money, it is difficult for the husband and wife to sit quietly and chat together. The husband's time is always occupied by countless social engagements. Slowly, many of the feelings between husband and wife have been eroded by life.
Think of Rao Pingru, an old man whose wife has complained to him and said angrily to him, "You can't do anything", but Rao Pingru has given his wife more understanding and tolerance. Looking at the marriage life today, if both husband and wife can tolerate each other, "live in peace", will there be such a high divorce rate in metropolis?
A poet once said, "If you are well, it will be sunny."; If you are sad, it is cloudy; If you shed tears, it is rainy; If you are angry, it is windy; If you leave, you will miss your every day
From knowing each other to loving each other to getting along, couples will certainly experience ups and downs in life, and will also encounter all kinds of hardships. But being together is fate. Don't let the trivialities of life cause unnecessary estrangement between each other, which affects the feelings between husband and wife. Only when you know how to get along with husband and wife can you live together.
(Intern editor: Lai Jiaxing)
