Post Date December, 02 2023
Yao Guo and Mary are a middle-aged couple. They have lived in harmony for 30 years, but their relationship has been very strained recently. The cause of the matter is a little ridiculous. It is Yao Guo who owes Mary money.
Since their marriage, Yao Guo and Ma Li have negotiated a property ownership system. Each person's salary and other funds are managed by individuals, which is the so-called AA life. All the things that need to be purchased at home, including the cost of raising children, are equally shared.
They have been using this financial management system for 30 years, and there have also been problems. For example, there are odd numbers in some aspects of spending, and who will pay for the extra part has become a problem. The solution is simple: toss a coin. However, Mary is unlucky. Many times she has to bear the "extra" expenses.
Mary couldn't afford the "loss", so they worked out a new plan. If they needed to pay extra money, neither of them would take advantage of it.
However, there are still problems in the AA life of the old couple. The public institution where Yaoguo is located needs to raise funds. Each person must pay 100000 yuan and return it after one year. He couldn't afford so much money, so he had to borrow it from Mary. After many years of marriage, they still have feelings. Mary readily agreed. However, she still asked Yaoguo to write down the IOU and print it in her hand. The deadline for repayment is one year.
The plan always cannot keep up with the changes. The company did not repay Yaoguo's 100000 yuan after the expiration of one year, and had to wait another half a year. It happened that Mary was in urgent need of money at this time, but Yaoguo didn't come out yet, so the old couple "went to war". The matter became more and more serious. Mary almost sued Yaoguo. Fortunately, relatives helped Yaoguo pay the debt, otherwise the old couple would have gone their separate ways.
Although the matter has passed, the relationship between the husband and wife has broken down. On the surface, it seems to be a couple, but in private, it is no different from a stranger.
Couples' AA life affects their emotions
AA life is a kind of "private ownership of property" behavior under the common will of husband and wife. The most straightforward explanation is that your own money is in your own hands, and the expenses in your life are equally distributed by your husband and wife.
On the surface, the AA-system life gives couples the space to keep private property, and neither of them will restrict the other. But problems also follow. The freedom of money is equal to the freedom of person. For example, both husband and wife earn a lot of money. In addition to the fixed expenses that are shared equally at home, what is the rest used for? Women who love beauty will purchase crazily, and men who can't control themselves may be "addicted to money". In any case, the other party has no right to interfere in its own financial expenditure, and can spend money freely.
In this way, the situation of keeping mistresses and small white faces will appear. When these third parties are involved in the marriage, the couple's feelings will inevitably appear cracks and even burst.
In fact, the AA system is not the ideal way for couples to manage their finances. Since two people are in love and compatible, why should they be separated so clearly? This is to draw a clear line from life, or to be together for profit. When feelings are mixed with interests, couples who live long will be afraid of two or three sooner or later.
