Post Date December, 02 2023
According to the "Times of India" report on May 11, Harvard University professor Daniel? Gilbert collected divorce data from the United States in recent years and conducted a survey of some divorced couples. He found that married couples are happier, live longer, earn more per capita, and enjoy more sexual life than those who are single, divorced, or cohabiting. But if they have children, their happiness will significantly decrease. "Looking forward to the arrival of a new baby seems to bring changes to the family, giving both spouses new goals and focus. However, at the same time, differences and contradictions that have been hidden or ignored in the past will emerge, and become increasingly serious as the baby is born and grown." For example, some husbands do not do household chores, even during the pregnancy of their wives. The wife's dissatisfaction can accumulate over time, and during pregnancy, her emotions can vary greatly, making it easy for the two to argue. In addition, the issue of children's education is also the fuse of marital conflicts.
Professor Gilbert believes that this discovery is not a call for people not to have children, but rather to use the opportunity of pregnancy to revitalize marriage. "A husband should accompany his wife to every obstetric examination to learn the knowledge of raising the next generation. Doing something together can help husband and wife reach some compromise and communicate emotions. A wife should learn to guide her husband to do more housework, praise him for his contributions to the entire family in due time, and let men do more in the air."
