Post Date December, 02 2023
During my study in the UK, I met my current wife, Amy. She is a very lively and straightforward girl who once brought me infinite happiness and comfort in a foreign country. At that time, I felt that I had found the love in my life. No matter what difficulties and troubles I encountered in life, as long as she was there, the problem would be solved easily. She is both my girlfriend and my pistachio. She followed me back to China two years ago. At that time, my family was still opposed because they thought it was incredible to marry a foreign daughter-in-law, and my family's lifestyle was incompatible with ours.
At that time, we were in a passionate relationship, and it wouldn't work if anyone said anything. It wouldn't be possible to separate us. However, after a period of marriage, I realized that there was a problem. Amy's behavior was too unconventional, which might seem normal to her, but after all, it was not in the UK, and many things were prone to misunderstandings.
For example, she dresses casually and wears all kinds of revealing clothes in front of my parents or friends. Whenever a friend comes to my house to play, she hugs and kisses, making others feel particularly uncomfortable. Moreover, she has no taboos in chatting with others. She talks about everything, including our privacy, which makes me feel very embarrassed. A lot of gossip has also spread among friends and neighbors.
The most important thing is that she is rather clingy and tired of me all day. Regardless of whether I am at work or attending friend gatherings, she always calls me inexplicably and talks about some intimate topics. "Once, while I was in a meeting, I accidentally pressed the hands-free button. At the other end, she even joked, 'Husband, I want to kiss you.' This made me very embarrassed in front of colleagues and superiors.".
Not only that, but also Amy often calls my buddies, asks them out, eats together, or does some incredible things. Her unrestrained attitude towards life is beyond my imagination. I have also told her many times that we should do as the Romans do and not be too that way. However, she is particularly stubborn and asks me not to interfere with her freedom.
Anyway, there are more and more conflicts between us. Sometimes when there's a fight, she doesn't hate me, and she makes fun of me. In fact, I also know that she has no other meaning, and she has long been accustomed to these behaviors. "But the living environment is different, and I really want to change her, but I'm at a loss.".
"She looks like this, not to mention how disgusted my parents are.". My parents are both more traditional, and I feel that she looks casual and very unorthodox. Now in the eyes of my relatives and friends, family is a wonderful flower. "I don't care. I'm afraid of public pressure, which makes me want a divorce.". Is there any way to resolve this apparent marital conflict?
Re:
In fact, it is difficult to change a person's lifestyle, especially between different nationalities. "Because many things have become habits, we can't blame her.". Just like you in her country, people also think you are strange.
Due to different living environments, there must be significant differences in lifestyle, which is normal. Since you have chosen this love, don't give up easily. What others say is secondary, and the most important thing is that you still love each other.
You know, she doesn't hesitate to stay away from her hometown, cross the ocean, and come to live with you. She gives her all to you, and she wants to stay with you for life; Rather than being picked on, rejected, or even abandoned by you.
(Intern Editor: Cai Junyi)
