Post Date December, 03 2023
Netizens' Questions
I am almost 50 years old this year, and although my husband is older than me, he looks much younger than me. "He's keeping a good figure, but I'm putting on some weight.". In contrast, I always have some inferiority complex, and this feeling directly affects our sexual life. "I'm afraid of having sex now, and although my husband doesn't have any objections to my behavior, I'm really ashamed of myself.". It is precisely this situation that has caused me to feel bad about my sexual life and always hope for an early end. Over time, in the face of my husband's sexual needs, I will try to avoid them or find some excuses to avoid sex. This feeling makes me very upset. How can I adjust it?
Expert Q&A
Sociology has a "mirror me" theory, which believes that we recognize ourselves by imagining who we are in the eyes of others. Your current problem is to imagine yourself as an "ugly" and sexually unattractive woman in the eyes of your husband. This imagination and inferiority complex lead you to adopt an evasive attitude towards sexual life. The problem is, since you also know that your husband doesn't dislike you and doesn't avoid sex, it means that in his judgment, you're not such a sexually unattractive woman. Therefore, your troubles come from your self condemnation, which is not necessarily true. Different bodies have their own beauty. For couples who grow old together, the change in each other's bodies is a natural and slow process, so it is also natural to accept.
