After my flashy marriage to my husband, I took care of my children at home, but he went outside to look for a mistress

I have been married to him for three years and have given birth to a son. We were married in a flash. Later, I found out that he kept a lot of things from me. After giving birth, I took care of the child at home. He went out to work and found a mistress outside.

When he caught him, he didn't admit it. Later, he got angry and didn't go to work, so he went back to his hometown with her. He even beat me for that woman. I don't know if he had me in his heart? The child has been 10 months since he was born, and he hasn't taken a day with him.

In order to stay with that woman, she changed all of her mobile phone password, QQ password, and WeChat password. He is very protective of the junior, because I called to scold that woman before. He said he was with that woman just for money. I don't know if I'm still going to live with him?

"I have been with him for three years, and he has beaten me four times. His parents said I was not wrong.". At the beginning, when I flashed off to marry him, his family didn't take a penny for the dowry and didn't buy a piece of jewelry. Did I indulge too much and instead feel that my efforts were due? What should I do?

reply:

1. Flash marriage is because you hate it too much and take it too easy, whether out of frustration or otherwise. In short, choosing flash marriage is not responsible for others, but also for yourself.

2. Flash marriage, of course, can cause problems in marriage due to careless choices. The process of love is the process of understanding and testing a person. If you choose to omit or shorten this link, it will naturally lack a deep understanding of the person, making it difficult to see the true person of the other person.

3. Of course, not all women who choose flash marriage are so backhanded and have a poor fate. It's just that flash marriage is not suitable for you. Women who choose flash marriage must first be intelligent and mature women with the ability and accomplishment to see through a man's essence in a short time, and you may not have it at all.

4. Facts have shown that the person you choose to marry in a flash marriage does not love you at all, nor does he love his own children. His selfish and violent nature is clearly revealed. He has no sense of family responsibility, and he is not worthy of entering a marriage. "You know, no matter what grandiose excuses and reasons are given, there is no way to hide the ugliness and shamelessness of a man looking for a mistress.". For this reason, you have the right to interpret him as farting.

5. "A man has reached the point of hitting you and hitting you more than once. He defends your third child everywhere and ignores you. Is there any need for this man to cherish?"? Of course, choosing to dissolve your marriage depends on whether you now have the courage and ability to leave him. If the immediate benefits of your marriage are enough to make you willing to endure humiliation, then due to the consideration that your child is too young at present, you can only temporarily choose to submit. Women, when they are too weak, everything they say is tears.

6. Rather than complaining, it's better to strive. It's better to summon courage to arm yourself well and learn to make yourself stronger from weakness. Since you have chosen the wrong person to love for a moment, if you want to re choose your own happiness, you need to improve your literacy in all aspects. At least, you need to achieve self-respect, self-love, self-reliance, and self-reliance. When you can live without relying on men and maintain independent self dignity, The initiative is in your own hands.