After I found out that my husband had an affair with a female netizen, he knelt down and begged for my forgiveness

Reader's Letter:

The thing is, my husband and I have been married for twenty years and our relationship has always been very good. Our two children, one son and one daughter, are also very happy. However, two months ago, I unexpectedly discovered that my husband had an affair with a netizen, not once, but five or six times. After learning about it, I was very sad and thought of divorce. But my husband knelt down for me at that time and said he was sorry for me. He couldn't cry anymore. I looked at him like that, and I was quite sad. After all, we have been married for twenty years, and I also want to forgive him, but I still can't forget about him and his girlfriend.

For over two months, I have been in pain, and so has my husband. He said he has no feelings for that netizen and just thinks it's new, but I can't forget that thing. I really don't know what to do. It's been two months, Teacher Pang. Can you tell me?

reply:

Hello, for men, infidelity is a desire that always lurks in their hearts. When they encounter the right opportunity and have certain conditions, this desire will emerge from the ground. Some men suppress this desire all their lives, some men wait and wait for opportunities when they have nothing to do, and some men take the initiative to seize opportunities and not let go.

I'm not sure if your man is the latter. In my principles, I'm not afraid of men cheating, but most importantly, I'm afraid that men won't remember or repent after cheating. So, for you, it remains to be observed whether your husband, after having an affair with a female netizen, kneels down to beg for forgiveness. Is it genuine repentance or a strategy of delaying action.

In principle, I look down on men who kneel down when they make mistakes, or commit suicide easily. On the surface, it seems that they sincerely repent or indicate that they are very manly. In fact, such men are the most weak, incompetent, timid, and often remember to eat or not to beat, and they are more extreme in their actions. Their credibility and reliability are very poor.

Of course, as a couple for 20 years, there is still a relationship. It's reasonable for you to pity him and forgive him, but don't be fooled by his superficial behavior. You can easily choose to forgive and easily indulge him. In the face of your husband's infidelity, in addition to being angry, you also need to remain calm. On the one hand, you need to deal with your husband's infidelity based on the facts, and on the other hand, you need to examine whether there are any hard issues in your marriage itself. You must find the root cause of your husband's infidelity in order to find the right solution.

Since your husband has already confessed that he is seeking a fresh and exciting moment, and what he says seems like a big truth, then you don't need to suffer and struggle. If you don't want a divorce, women know that turning the page is a wise thing. He has admitted his mistake to you, so being honest indicates that he may still be nostalgic about old relationships and hasn't lost his head about marriage. So give him a chance, and if he has another chance, never forgive him easily.