Post Date December, 03 2023
I met him on a blind date. I was 25 years old that year. As I was a little older, my parents urged me to get married. We got married a few months after we met. At the beginning, two people got along well. They worked outside together and earned a little money. Later, when my daughter took the college entrance examination, I took care of two children at home (my son was always with me when I was working), and found a job to do. I was very busy every day, but I still felt very happy.
But the good news didn't last long. My son was ill that day, and my company just had a major examination and couldn't ask for leave. So I called my father-in-law to ask him to go to school to take care of the child, but he said that he couldn't go to the general election. There was no way, so I had to ask the teacher to take my son to see a doctor. Later, I went back to my parents-in-law and said, is it more important for others to become officials than for their grandchildren? They called my husband to complain.
My husband is a very filial person. When he heard them crying, he came to question me. I was also angry at that time and thought that it was their fault. He said this to me, so my husband and I quarreled and even mentioned divorce. Later, when he came back, he rushed for a divorce. The two children didn't agree, so they put it down temporarily.
In an accident, I saw the chat record on his mobile phone and knew that he was outside. Since we quarreled, his money has not been taken home much. Now he has found out that he is ill and doesn't want to divorce, but I am so heartless about him. What should I do? What should two children do?
[Reply]
Because of the flash marriage in youth, the emotional foundation is weak. When life encounters a little trouble and contradiction, it can not withstand the test of wind and rain. At first, nothing big happened in your family. Just because of an ordinary family dispute, your husband cheated and got divorced. It's really a big deal!
Maybe you are impulsive people in real life. If you hurt each other and your family because of impulse, I think there is still room for relaxation. After all, you have lived together for so many years. Although there is no deep feeling at the beginning of the period, it is not easy to go through it together. With common children and endless blood entanglement, there must be family love without love. So, if you choose to divorce, you should keep calm until you have to.
At any time, managing a happy marriage will not be so smooth. We will encounter problems of one kind or another. The important thing is that we need to face it frankly and dare to face it. Whether it is the contradiction between family members or between husband and wife, don't care too much, don't hold on to it, turn over the past as soon as possible, and don't accumulate into long-term and profound contradictions.
As a woman, you can't accept your husband's betrayal for the moment. I can understand that it is conceivable how much this behavior will hurt your feelings. But your husband's appearance is also due to a reason. It mainly depends on his performance and attitude after the event. If he is the result of a sudden impulse and a hot head, and has the heart of repentance, and the willingness to return to the family to cherish this marriage, Then you can't kill him with a stick. You must give him a chance to repent and make up. Of course, whether you can give him a chance or not is ultimately up to you. You can follow your true choices.
But now it seems that your heart is contradictory, and you don't know what to do. You may mainly consider innocent children, which is a headache. For this reason, I would advise you to be more rational and consider whether the marriage is worth living or not, and make a relatively objective and mature decision based on your actual situation, including the costs you need to pay for not divorce and the costs you may bear after divorce.
