Post Date December, 02 2023
In fact, love is much like looking in a mirror. What you see in love is often your own reflection. What you allow the other party to treat you, in fact, is how you view yourself in your heart. Do you think that many people often shout, "There are no good men in this world!" Women/men just don't have anything good Both women and men are bad Men are superficial and only like regular girls Women are reality, only looking at money., The more he talks and thinks about it, the more he meets the kind of person he "hates". He often falls in love with bad women and men, and it is more likely that the more he dislikes them, the more they attract such people to his side. So, deepening his idea is right.
There is a girl friend who always meets a flirtatious man, who has suffered several losses and still keeps repeating it. We will feel that if he makes repeated mistakes and disrespects your man, of course, he should not be together. But she always makes excuses for the other party, even without a bottom line, and constantly tolerates forgiveness so that the other party can repeatedly abuse her. Finally, I found out that she actually does not respect herself, making the other party feel that they can not respect her. She hurts herself in the name of love, so the other party can hurt her with love. Although, that's not love at all.
You often encounter people who are with a person who treats themselves poorly and mistreats them, even cracking their legs and being emotionally disloyal, ostensibly just for fun, but they still don't want to be separated from them. Regardless of how their friends try to persuade them, they also know that the other person doesn't love them or treat them badly, but they still can't be separated. (You can think of many such cases.)
"I often encounter situations like this and find it difficult to understand. However, when I deeply understand the thoughts of such people, I find that their" sense of self worth "is very low, so when they are bullied or abused, they will first deny themselves, feeling that they are not good enough, that they are not paying enough, but they will not first think about who is the problem.".
We also often encounter friends who are not confident in themselves, who always feel that they are not thin enough or beautiful enough... and even feel that their partner will dislike themselves and like more beautiful girls. When they become less confident, they tend to be with someone who will deny them and crack their legs.
Some people fall in love like ghost movies or tragedies, living a life of "self abuse", constantly testing their endurance and limits, living a life of fear and restlessness every day, and even being subjected to violence by the other party, but they continue to endure. "I even blame myself for not having a good life, for not having good conditions, for being afraid of leaving such a bad person, and never meeting good people again in the future, so I will continue to be together.".
Some partners can make you feel bad about yourself, you're not good enough, you don't deserve to be loved, and even make you hate yourself, lose confidence, and feel unworthy of him... Think carefully, why do you want to be with such a person? Why do you want someone to hurt you like this? Why do you want to hurt yourself?
I often share with many people that when you are looking for a partner, you need to put yourself in a "good state" instead of being in a bad state, lonely, and anxious to find someone to love. When your inner state is not good, you don't love yourself enough, and you're unhappy, the people you meet often aren't good things. If your own mindset is not correct, there are misconceptions and greed, and the standard for judging people is only superficial, then the person you meet may also have the same mindset as you, and only superficial.
I have to admit that many times when we are in love, we are looking at ourselves in the mirror. How you look at yourself is usually how the other person treats you. In other words, if you feel that you are not worthy of being loved, that you despise yourself, that you hate yourself, that you feel afraid, then the other person will treat you in the same way as your inner attitude towards yourself.
Companions reflect our inner subconscious, our perception of ourselves, and our sense of self worth.
When you are not confident in yourself, you will be with someone who will deny you and spoil you. When you are constantly afraid of being cracked and living in fear, the other person will usually end up cracking his or her legs. When you are not good to yourself and don't love yourself enough, then your partner won't be too good to you either. When you feel that you can handle it with money, the other person treats you the same way. When you feel that it is not necessary to take relationships too seriously and you do not want to acknowledge relationships, then the people you meet will not take you too seriously.
If you don't respect yourself, others won't respect you. If you feel that you are not worth being loved, the other person will not love you well.
Of course, there are also times when we are inadvertently deceived and unknowingly talk about the wrong emotions, which are not something we can predict or control. But to put it another way, why should he lie to you instead of others? There are always good and bad people in this world. Why did he choose you? Why doesn't he choose someone else? Do we have any traits that make him feel gullible, bullied, and disrespectful?
Think carefully, in your life's love experience, is it true that when you feel bad about yourself and don't love yourself, your relationships are just as bad. "If you feel that you are not good enough or worth it, the people you meet will deepen your denial of yourself.".
Perhaps, before we find another partner to save us, we should first face ourselves well, solve our inner problems, and give ourselves more love and affirmation. Before finding another love to make us happy, we must learn to make ourselves happy first. Because love is not the way to save you and improve you, but rather, you must first be honest with yourself.
How you treat yourself and how you see yourself is often the way the other person treats and sees you. "If you don't spoil yourself, hurt yourself, or disrespect yourself, the other person won't treat you like this, because you won't give him a chance at all.".
Before falling in love, get along well with yourself and adjust yourself to your best state. You will attract people who truly love you, understand you, and are suitable for you. Regardless of whether you have love or not, you will have self-sufficient happiness and love, which is the most important thing!
