Post Date December, 02 2023
Normal marriage is protected by law, as it is the beginning of a perfect life for both spouses and the cradle for cultivating the next generation of talents. However, marriage has a very fragile side, such as extramarital affairs that can easily crush it. Extramarital affairs cannot be sanctioned through coercive means, but can only be resolved through moral ethics and the power of the couple themselves. If you don't want extramarital affairs to harm a sweet marriage, you must abide by the "rules of love" in marriage.
Rule 1: Don't Doubt Your Lover
Don't think that you know your lover's thoughts and feelings like the palm of your hand, nine out of ten, you will make mistakes. In marital crises, this situation often occurs: the suspicion of catching clues makes both individuals angry, difficult to communicate, and ultimately the relationship breaks down.
Comment: Couples must communicate in a timely and frequent manner, speak up all problems, and then work together to solve them. Only in this way can suspicion and contradictions be eliminated.
Rule 2 of Love: Don't take it for granted
Don't take what your partner does for granted. It is very important to express gratitude to a loved one and eliminate three major negative attitudes: a sense of entitlement, unrealistic expectations, and pretentious forgetfulness.
Comment: Write down the big and small things your partner has done for you. Ask yourself if you have expressed gratitude for these things and how it is expressed. Keep expressing gratitude for a week, and you will notice the changes.
Rule Three of Love: Never Blame
Couples should never blame each other. It's all your fault! "" You asked me to do it, because of you, things got messed up! "Such complaints are easy to say. And words like 'what responsibility should I take' are rarely spoken out. Complaining actually expresses accusations and threats, and the other party will naturally retaliate, leading to escalating conflicts.
Comment: Write down your grievances towards your loved one, then ask yourself, self examine your responsibilities, and finally discuss with both parties to find a solution.
Rule 4 of Love: Don't Find Reasons
There can be no reason for conflicts between husband and wife. I now understand why you are so picky, you're like your father. Such seemingly understandable analysis of the motives behind a lover's behavior can only lead to anger.
Comment: First understand the reasons for your anger, learn to listen to your partner's perspectives in an open and caring manner, use nonverbal means such as eyes to make them understand that you are listening attentively, and finally provide constructive feedback.
Rule 5 of Love: Timely Refusal
Even if couples are close, they should learn to refuse in a timely manner. The practice of sacrificing one's own feelings and blindly satisfying the other person may seem beneficial, but in reality, it is a manifestation of insincerity. It is difficult to have intimacy in a marriage without sincerity.
Comment: To be honest is more likely to win the trust of your partner and deepen the relationship between husband and wife. You may want to list all the things you are afraid of telling your partner based on their level of difficulty. Afterwards, start with the simplest thing and try to tell your partner the truth.
Rule 6 of Love: Silence is a Deadly Weapon
Husbands and wives should not use silence as a weapon. Silence is a deadly weapon in marital relationships. Without communication, the barriers and contradictions between couples will only become deeper and heavier, and they will not be properly resolved.
Comment: Write a letter to your partner expressing the reasons for anger and your own troubles, and strive for communication and understanding between the couple with a positive attitude.
Law Seven: There must be no threat
If couples use threats as weapons and means of venting, then there will definitely be problems! Choosing to indulge oneself emotionally or physically is more like a provocation. For example, depression, reckless spending, suicide, etc. Couples should also avoid words that lower their self-worth. For example, 'Why are you so lazy!' and so on.
Comment: Find a place where both parties can have a peaceful conversation for 30 minutes, and then figure out what actions are causing obstacles to your partner, and reflect on each one individually. You can also list all the sentences that say 'how and how are you', and then replace 'you' with 'me', trying to communicate with your partner using sentences that start with 'me'.
