A man should cultivate three responsible fields in his life - if you don't cultivate them, others will cultivate them for you

A true man should conscientiously cultivate the three "responsibility fields", otherwise, his life will be imperfect, and no matter what kind of scenery you may have at the moment, there will be some regrets and unease.

Man's First Responsibility Field: Career

To be a true man, you should first have a career that is determined by your personality and ability traits. This' responsibility field 'is the foundation of men's existence, and men should always grasp and firmly grasp it.

A man without a career is like a bird without wings, a tree without roots, and a river without a source. Only career can make men rejuvenate and energetic, otherwise, it will lead them into boredom and decline. Without a career, men cannot become true men.

There is a strategy for running a business. To run a business, men need to be a bit domineering, with a bit of domineering aura, achieve a bit of kindness, and also have a bit of cunning.

One must have a high eye. To be able to broaden one's horizons, have a broad mind, be tenacious, aim for the commanding heights of career development, have the courage and courage to "sacrifice oneself, dare to pull the emperor off the horse", and create space and prospects for one's own career. To advocate struggle and oppose decadence; To advocate progress and oppose timidity; We should advocate high and oppose low.

Secondly, lower your hand. Focusing on the long term and having a broad demeanor is just one of them. Without taking a few steps, one cannot travel a thousand miles. When running a business, men should seriously focus on "doing" and strive for practical results in terms of "small", "fine", and "refined". Men should learn to divide their big life goals into small ones, balance them, and implement them effectively in stages; Men should also pay attention to the details of their career development, compare them with their life goals, practice Mr. Liu Bei's famous saying of "don't do evil for small things, don't do good for small things", weave a "network of details" of their life goals, and then implement them one detail at a time.

Men need to make their careers "refined" and overcome the vague and empty control. Life has many temptations, there are many things you want to do, but the things you can do are very limited. Greed leads to a slight refinement, while extravagance leads to nothingness. If all the sparrows on the mountain are caught, it will definitely lead to the consequences of not getting a single one into the cage.

So men should learn to make choices and be good at choosing one career goal based on their abilities and energy, which can stimulate their passion for life, and tirelessly explore it. If high eyes and low hands tell a man how to look up and walk down, then looking is telling a man how to borrow power. Straight forward and straight backward, with fierce moves, but a brave individual; Looking left and right, the rotation is gentle, which is the work of the wise. A person's power, no matter what, is limited.

So men should learn to extend their own hands and feet, connect others' hands and feet to their own, and unite all the forces that can be united to strive for their life goals, then the power is infinite. Looking left and right is not a hesitation or hesitation that people understand, but a technique of galloping freely. Left looking means that men should correctly position and unite their own relying power based on their own life goals, and cherish their relying power as much as they protect their own eyes; This power includes human resources, social resources, and natural resources, which are the foundation of men's success. Right looking means that men should broaden their horizons and position their striving power based on their own life goals. Compared to striving for strength, relying on strength is the relationship between the beginning and the end. It is necessary to accurately locate and pay attention to the mutual transformation between the two under certain conditions. A man who only has a career is an unhappy man.

The second responsibility of men is to lead their women to manage their homes into a warm harbor.

In this harbor, there should be light winds, green water, red flowers, and stars; More tranquility and less impatience; More care and warmth, less blame and indifference; Give more and give more, take less and receive less.

Society is complex and restless. Men without a warm harbor to dilute the temptation, impact, and entanglement of society will become restless and exhausted; Over time, either you will lose your direction, wear away your will, lose your fighting spirit, and give up your life struggle amidst sighs and sighs; Either they will be persistent and paranoid, isolated and eccentric, indulging in arrogance and arrogance, losing composure, and defeating their own achievements in the midst of betrayal and estrangement.

A man cannot have a warm home, and he should not treat it as a child's play. To create a warm home, the first step is to choose a woman who is suitable for one's personality and life development needs. This is crucial. The place to fill the gap is the most prone to water leakage. When I was young, I discovered this truth when I watched others make up the pot, but it wasn't until I was forty that I truly understood.

Secondly, the reason why I say that home is a "responsibility field" for men is to make men understand that a warm home is a man's responsibility, not just a woman's obligation.

Women want men to love and dote on them, and men should never hang their careers on their foreheads, so as to use their women as servants in a dignified manner. Of course, this love and favor is not without principles, at least this favor should be based on the basic principle that women can respect the elderly and love the young. A woman favored by a man should be a woman who cares for her elders, children, siblings, and herself. Unprincipled indulgence not only fails to create a warm home, but also allows indulgence to flood the home into a sea of hardship.

Physical and mental comfort and love, as well as occasional romance and communication, are nutrients for a warm family - unexpected small gifts; Sweet pillow whispers; Turn off your phone and enjoy a peaceful holiday outing in the world of two; Gently hang the troubles of the day by the door, and enter the room to give your woman a affectionate hug Such and so on, will add infinite brilliance to your home. If you don't have the ability to enter your woman's heart, and your woman doesn't have the ability to enter your heart, then you can't become her, nor can she become you. A warm family can only be a flower in the water, a moon in the mirror, and cannot bear good fruit.

In addition, to create a warm home, you must choose a good circle of life and make some like-minded friends. The impact of the environment on people cannot be ignored. Being closed cannot create a warm family. If you make friends with elegant lifestyles, your life will be full of elegance. If you make friends with vulgar lifestyles, your life will inevitably enter the ranks of vulgarity. The poet said, 'If you want to have such a clear mind, it's because there is a source of flowing water.'.

It is important to pay attention to one's own life circle in order to create a warm family. For example, if you make some card friends, don't mention the warmth of your home, I'm afraid it's difficult to even get a meal!

The third responsibility of men is to educate and cultivate their children.

No matter how busy a man is, he cannot waste his communication time with his children. I won't talk about the research findings of experts - the topic of men raising children to be smart, but children require the will and strength of fathers, which is absolutely true. I'm not saying why women are not. It's undeniable that there are some obvious differences between women and men in many aspects. If fathers spend less time communicating with their children, they may still have some deficiencies in willpower, thinking, personality, abilities, and other aspects.

Especially for boys, without the influence of their fathers, their personalities will definitely be weaker, their masculinity will definitely be less, but their narrowness and arrogance will definitely be more. This responsibility field, men should never leave it to women to cultivate alone; If not done well, it will make a man sigh a lot for the rest of his life.

Taking responsibility for educating and nurturing children, men should have their own methods. What men give to their children should mainly be spiritual inspiration and role models of will.

Firstly, men should set an example of responsibility for their children. I have always believed that responsibility is an important symbol of the difference between humans and other animals. Daring to take responsibility and being good at taking responsibility should be a sign of a person's maturity and health.

The main characteristic of a man's shoulders is responsibility. Teach children responsibility, and you give them the ladder of growth.

Secondly, men should give their children an enterprising spirit. Without the ability to explore and innovate, one cannot achieve success. In the weakness of human nature, "launching a ship" makes it difficult for many people to avoid. What I mean by 'launching a ship' is a mentality and behavior that seeks comfort, stops at a taste, and fears hardship and pleasure. It is the responsibility of men to cultivate children's indomitable and enterprising spirit, as well as their indomitable willpower.

Once again, men should guide their families to grow together, giving children time and space for growth, and allowing them to learn how to grow on their own; We cannot let go or take responsibility. We should guide children to face difficulties correctly and also guide them to approach success correctly. The key is to guide children to experience the joy of growth on their own. A man who plays with his children all day is not a man who has the skills to cultivate this "responsibility field".

In the above three aspects, in current China, women cannot completely replace men, so men must not desert this important field.

Career, women, and children stand together, while the tripod of men's happiness stands.

Cultivate three "responsible fields" to ensure your lifelong happiness.