Post Date December, 03 2023
Now, there is a fashionable statement, that is, the eight-point theory of love, which means that if you love a person, don't put all your heart into it. Eight-point is enough to love him, and the remaining two points should be love yourself, or you should leave a room for yourself. Otherwise, one day, if love becomes the past, how can you clean up the mess in that place? How do you face the heavy loss?
Love is the most cost-free and investment - free thing in the world. You may lose a lot or win a win-win situation. But who knows these unknowns? Daily calculation will only lead love to utilitarianism and snobbery, hurt love and finally hurt others. What about happiness?
How long is the calculated love?
There are many forms of love. But we often see this, but it is the most realistic nowadays - the poor couple, the calculation of firewood and rice.
I once felt that a love is really worthless when it comes to haggling over a little money. But today, I have no choice but to find out how many men and women love and care about each other. There is no way. Who makes them really shy!
People often say, "Poverty is not terrible. As long as we work together and work together, the good days will not be far away." I also like to see such scenes. However, life is always not so satisfying. The more needy men and women are, the more insecure they are. In terms of personality, they often fall into extremes.
Beware of each other and protect yourself excessively, because the magic of money is beyond people's control.
Three questions before love:
① What is your motivation? Love vs material?
② What is your means of maintaining love? Smart vs mean?
③ What is your happiness? Money vs dignity?
Maybe you will scoff at this problem, but it is still realistic in front of us. Many women are mistresses at all costs for money. But after she got the money? Waiting for her will be lonely and empty. And some women give up those easy inducements for love. But after getting married, they quarreled about the daily necessities.
This is life, which is alive in front of us, waiting for us to choose.
Love AA system=calculate love
Just like the popular "AA Life" broadcast a few days ago, the gap between the rich and the poor between the two sides is large, and the personality difference is large. Finally, we had to implement the AA system to maintain love and marriage: take a taxi to pay for each account; Daughter-in-law and husband also have to pay for breakfast; The monthly living expenses are summarized as 2000 yuan each; The income from family investment such as stock speculation and house purchase shall be distributed according to the proportion of contribution.
Finally, the sweet couple was upset by the "AA Treaty". One was discouraged and the other was happy. They are actually looking for a common point in their way of life and are in the run-in period. This well-calculated way of life is actually easy to hurt feelings.
The calculation of money worsens the family relationship
As shown in the play, after the parents of the man learned about the AA system of his son and his wife and the contract signed by his son and his father-in-law, it was difficult to accept, and the contradiction caused by the difference between the rich and the poor became more and more serious.
Once you get married, it's no longer a matter of two people. Before marriage, everyone is the darling of the family. After marriage, it is normal for parents to love their children. Everyone thinks their children are good, and they are not willing to suffer any injustice.
At this time, it is necessary for the couple to communicate with their parents skillfully. As the saying goes, reporting good news does not mean reporting bad news. Once parents are involved in some things, it is not easy to finish the work.
