Post Date December, 03 2023
Will a failed marriage affect a lifetime?
Marriage is a siege: those outside want to enter, while those inside want to come out; Some people come in and out a few times, while others come out and think about it, but they linger on the wall - because they are afraid that once they leave, they may not find happiness again in the future.
Han Buxin, a researcher at the Institute of Psychology of the Chinese Academy of Sciences, pointed out that these concerns are indeed widespread, especially for people born in the 1960s and 1970s. Parents attach great importance to their children's marriage, emphasizing the importance of family and prosperity, and it is best to be consistent throughout. Once there are issues with a child's marriage, many interpersonal relationships such as relatives, friends, and colleagues will change due to divorce. Therefore, parents will try their best to persuade and dissuade. On the contrary, more and more people born in the 1980s are getting married, and their views on marriage are different from those of their parents. They also take remarriage issues lightly, believing that happiness is always together, and that unhappiness is not necessary to stick to it.
Will a failed marriage affect a lifetime? Han Buxin believes that divorce does have an impact on a person's health, mainly reflected in psychological aspects such as depression, loneliness, anger, and unwillingness. After analyzing nearly 9000 adults aged 51 to 61, the Aging Center of the National Institute for Public Opinion at the University of Chicago also found that those who have experienced divorce or widowhood are 20% more likely to suffer from heart disease, diabetes, cancer and other diseases than those who are currently married normally. In the United States, if a woman divorces after the age of 30, the likelihood of remarriage is only 60%; If divorced over the age of 40, the proportion of remarriages decreases to 40%. Moreover, for both men and women, the rate of divorce demography for remarriers is more than 60%.
Psychologists analyze that remarriers generally have a nostalgic mentality, especially those who remarry after divorce. Many people remarry just to alleviate the hardships of being single, and the criteria for choosing a partner are more realistic than when they first got married. Some remarried couples may also have mutual feelings and suspicion. Faced with a marriage with a weak foundation, it is easy to disintegrate when there is a conflict between the two parties. Therefore, an increasing number of psychologists in the United States are beginning to delve into ways to solve marital crises and use various methods to help people in crisis save their marriages.
But this does not mean that after a divorce, one is unhappy for a lifetime. Han Buxin said, "The key to determining whether one can be happy after a divorce is still oneself. You have to get up from where you fell. Summarize the reasons for the failure of your previous marriage, find more reasons from yourself; do not change good lifestyle habits, and pay more attention to your own health. This can minimize the harm of divorce and prepare for the happiness of your next marriage
