Post Date December, 03 2023
According to US media reports, Massachusetts recently completed a survey of 4000 married men and women. The report points out that only 23% of women will fully express their worries and unhappiness during marital arguments, while women can swallow their anger and do great harm to their health. Compared to wives who often express their dissatisfaction to their partners, those who love to remain silent have a mortality rate four times higher. Interestingly, the answer from a Chinese survey is the opposite. Taking a hospital in Beijing as an example, "When couples come here for treatment, their wives are more willing to communicate with their husbands when encountering problems, while their husbands tend to remain silent. This phenomenon of 'hot women and cold men' is very common in Beijing
US Survey: Wife's Heartbreaking and Silent
In this survey of 4000 married men and women in the United States, it was found that 32% of men would fully express their worries and unhappiness when arguing with their wives, while only 23% of women would do so.
In addition, research has found that when couples argue, wives are more likely to break their hearts, and their risk of developing heart disease is also higher as a result. Wives who remain silent during arguments not only suffer from various diseases, but also have a relatively high mortality rate.
This report points out that women who remain silent and swallow their breath can cause significant harm to their health. Compared to wives who often express their dissatisfaction to their partners, those who love to remain silent have a mortality rate four times higher.
After an argument, women usually hold onto their emotions and cannot relax. The pressure of modern life is constant, not only in the workplace, but also in the family.
Between the sexes, men belong to the more dominant side, and when conflicts arise, they hope to take control of the situation. Therefore, when a husband and his wife argue, they often neglect their tone and emotions. In the event of losing control, the woman is the one who suffers the most.
It is difficult for the husband to "escape" the voice of dissatisfaction
From a clinical perspective, Chinese couples tend to be less talkative in their marriages compared to men. Many couples who encounter problems often complain that their wives do not speak to them after their husbands return home, either play with the computer or drink alcohol, and do not care enough about themselves when they go to the clinic for medical treatment. In clinical observations, it has been found that when family conflicts arise, women generally appear more willing to face reality and communicate with their husbands, while men tend to have an avoidance mentality of being too lazy to talk or manage.
Experts say that most of men's stress comes from work. After returning home, they often immerse themselves in daytime work. If their wives chatter incessantly, it is easy for their husbands to develop an avoidance mentality. Many men's expressions are: love to travel, enjoy drinking with friends, addicted to the internet, playing games, and so on.
This phenomenon is very common in Beijing, and couples who experience this phenomenon of "hot women and cold men" may experience this situation regardless of their age group, whether they are young or old, and whether men hold leadership positions in the workplace or not.
Expert analysis: Chinese husbands have common emotional barriers
In China, many men have emotional barriers. Emotional barriers manifest in families, where women often fail to express their thoughts accurately and effectively when they want to communicate with them about a certain issue, leading to arguments between couples.
For example, many men may say things like 'I've already said my thoughts, why are you still holding onto this issue?' This is likely because men's expressions are not clear enough, and women also fail to understand their words.
This kind of 'speechless' man needs the help of a psychologist to learn to speak his mind, which is very important in the family. Similarly, the husband also needs to practice more to overcome this obstacle, "Director Guo reminded.
Chinese wives love communication and need to be able to listen
When there are problems between couples, they will never be on the wrong side. "Family problems are actually formed by the superposition of negative factors between two individuals. Therefore, if a man shows avoidance and avoidance in marriage, it is likely related to his wife's lack of calmness and ability to listen.
Women who enjoy talking and communicating with their husbands must be careful not to become overly emotional, improve self-control, and learn to listen. Listening here is not only about giving the other person the right and time to speak, but also about understanding and understanding what the husband is saying. If a wife could guide her husband to express her feelings, that would be even better.
