Post Date December, 03 2023
The reasons for the increasing trend of extramarital affairs in China are quite complex, not due to the lack of real freedom of divorce. Some marriages that have "died" or should have "died" should certainly end in divorce. However, marriage and family are by no means purely personal matters, and the fine cultural tradition that married people must bear social responsibility for their spouses and minor children has not disappeared in the hearts of our people.
Therefore, some families with marital conflicts are unwilling to divorce hastily when they are intervened by various public opinions; Some parties feel that the cost of divorce is too high due to restrictions such as children, housing, and economic conditions, and such parties may not necessarily turn to seeking an extramarital relationship.
The occurrence of extramarital love affairs is more due to a lack of self and social restraint due to sexual instincts, a preference for the new and the old, and a lack of emphasis on the emotional consolidation of both parties in the marriage. Especially under the negative impact of Western sexual freedom, under the conditions of power and money, extramarital sexual behavior occurs in large numbers. Therefore, this is a manifestation of the decline of social morality, not the absence of freedom to divorce.
There are significant differences between men and women in extramarital love. From the perspective of initial motivation, men generally seek novelty, offload the burden of career and family, and satisfy their desire to conquer, while women generally seek compensation, dependence, and reward. From the perspective of love characteristics, men's extramarital love is often due to sexual temptation, with casual, incidental, and improvisational characteristics. The speed and intensity of love outbreaks are higher than those of women; Women's extramarital love affairs pay more attention to the emotional foundation and psychological feelings, and they are better than men in terms of the depth and durability of love.
In terms of role characteristics, men are proactive, impulsive, and phased, while women are more passive. From the behavioral results of extramarital love, the general process of male extramarital love is from "liking the new but not tired of the old" to "not tired of the old but abandoning the new", while the general process of female extramarital love is from "hating the old and liking the new" to "abandoning the old and seeking the new". The reason for this difference is that men generally pay more attention to their careers and prospects, and are more realistic; Women tend to regard love as the main theme of their lives. The difference between the sexes in extramarital love makes women more vulnerable to greater harm in extramarital love.
