Post Date December, 03 2023
Mengmeng and her boyfriend just broke up recently for a simple reason - the woman is at the age of marriage, while the man is hesitant to get married. Unable to wait, we had to break up. "He said he doesn't mean he doesn't love me, but if you let him get married now, it's better to put a knife on his neck. I really don't understand why a man must drag on until 30 before getting married. Maybe he wants to play for a few more years and give himself more choices."
In response, Meng Meng's boyfriend Xiao Peng explained that she didn't want to get married now because she wasn't prepared mentally and materially. "We don't have the conditions for marriage at all. We don't have a house or a car, so we can't get married.".
"Moreover, I have just graduated from graduate school and always feel that I am still a child, unable to afford a family." Meanwhile, Xiao Peng admitted that he and Mengmeng really need more time to blend in.
People who dare not marry have personality weaknesses
Either "flash marriage" or delaying marriage, men nowadays seem to deliberately oppose women. Song Yumei made the following analysis of the mentality of men who insisted on not getting married before the age of 25:
First, some of them are more mature and cautious about marriage. "Compared to people who have 'flash marriages' or' divorces', they understand more about the significance of marriage to a person, and therefore do not make hasty decisions." However, Song Yumei also said that these people often exhibit personality weaknesses such as hesitation in doing things and looking forward and backward in their daily lives. "When applied to emotions, this personality can easily lead to the loss of true love."
Secondly, for another part of people, they don't want to get married because they want to keep trying and find a woman who truly suits them. As Xiao Peng said, "Finding a girlfriend can be easy, but it's important to be careful when finding a wife." It is in this frequent replacement process that they hurt too many women, and they often end up looking at each other, making it difficult to find their "true princess.".
Finally, men marrying late is a product of the times. "In modern society, most people choose to cohabit before marriage, so whether to marry or not is just a difference on paper." Song Yumei said, many people are afraid of taking responsibility after marriage because they are unwilling to marry. After all, marriage means that you have to shoulder the responsibilities of two families, which is exactly what many men want to avoid, especially with only children.
Women, don't be emotional
Men are clearly more advantageous in terms of age and marriage. So, as a woman, are you waiting for the man who is reluctant to marry, or are you pretending to be smart and turn around and leave? Song Yumei believes that while women are supreme in love, they cannot lose their sanity. "You need to be clear about what kind of man you are facing and what kind of marriage you need."
"Among the interviewees I have contacted, when cynical men do not want to get married, some women will insist on not letting go for this relationship that has lasted for several years. In fact, at this time, there is no result in continuing, and the most injured person is themselves." This type of woman, who only loves love, might as well retain their final dignity and reserve and leave.
If you are sure that this man is worth waiting for a few years, then it doesn't hurt to get married again in a few years. "However, this must be based on your mutual trust, and at the same time, do not ignore the changes that time has made to people." Song Yumei reminded that sometimes the killer of love is not an affair, but time.
