Post Date November, 17 2024
The sense of sexual shame among Chinese people has a long history. More than 90 years after Mr. Lu Xun wrote this article, many people still view the originally beautiful sex as dirty, shameful, and invisible. Where does our shame about sex come from? What is the possible origin? Here is the gender knowledge organized by the editor for everyone. Let's take a look together!
Mr. Lu Xun once wrote in "Just a Collection of Miscellaneous Feelings":
The imagination of the Chinese people can only take such a leap at this level.
The sense of sexual shame among Chinese people has a long history. More than 90 years after Mr. Lu Xun wrote this article, many people still view the originally beautiful sex as dirty, shameful, and invisible.
Where does our shame about sex come from? What is the possible origin?
Why do I feel dirty?
Original question:
I think sex is because you can't see people, you can't see.
Sometimes when I see the vast love affairs in foreign countries, I am still moved, but often I cannot change my opinion
Sometimes ending a relationship can become particularly empty, and sometimes just after going out, I feel sorry.
27 years old, now the mother of the child, but still has strange feelings. I have never told my husband about these things and I don't want to eliminate his interest.
Why do some parents, especially mothers, feel ashamed and dirty about early sex education for girls
Order 1. Seeing Uncle Benhua's life wisdom and conservative views on women are in the interests of both women and men. If women are prone to having sexual intercourse with men, they will be attacked simultaneously because this behavior violates the common interests of both women and men.
From a female perspective, women who are prone to sexual intercourse with men without a marriage agreement or sufficient marriage and material resources are less likely to obtain survival and material security from men through sex. Because at that time, sex relied on men for survival, such people would be sexually attacked and maliciously scolded.
From a male perspective, a woman is prone to having sexual intercourse with men, and men lack a sense of security. This may increase the risk that his offspring will be Mr. Wang next to him, so women who are prone to sexual intercourse with men and men who tolerate his behavior will also infringe on men's interests.
From a biological perspective, all animals are the most vulnerable and vulnerable to attack during sexual intercourse. If not in a hidden place, it is easy to suffer from extinction disasters. In order to survive, it is necessary to be in a hidden place.
The East implements a culture of shame, while the West implements a culture of guilt. In a certain cultural context, combined with long-standing beliefs, we may receive and practice shame education in an invisible environment. For example:
In the summer, a girl over 2 years old is at her own house, and there are guests at home. She dances happily on the sofa. Next, she lifted her skirt to express joy. Her mother was surprised and said, 'What are you doing?'? Quickly put down the skirt! Shy! Shy! Pull her off the sofa. This is sexual shame education.
If we change the way we educate,
After her mother saw it, she walked over and hugged her, holding her in the bedroom, telling her about the hidden part of the skirt, which is called the privacy part. You can watch it yourself or show it to your closest person, but don't show it to others. Because this is your own.
This girl doesn't think she's shy.
Looking back at this issue, there is a strange feeling in reality that face-to-face requires courage, and change requires time and courage. But women are weak, and mothers are tough. With children, you may have more motivation to change. Sexual shame education is' forced repetition '. Come on~
For example, self induced - or the use of drugs to blur the state is a form of indulgence. The original tribe's multiple rituals provide vivid examples of this aspect. In a brief period of extreme excitement, the world disappeared and the feeling of isolation also disappeared.
If it is a collective desire, participants will experience the feeling of fate with a group of people, exacerbating the effect.
Sexual experience is often closely related to this indulgence. Sexual indulgence can achieve the same effect as drug addiction in blurry states. The ritual of collective indulgence is widely circulated, and its effect is that the audience will not have a strong sense of loneliness for a period of time afterwards, but gradually the sense of terror will rise again, so this ritual must be repeated.
As long as indulgence is a collective activity of the tribe, it will not cause fear and shyness. Such behavior is correct, even virtuous, because it is a collective activity that not only receives the consent of doctors and monks, but also their support, so participants do not need to feel ashamed or guilty. However, if people living in a culture that has lost this ritual choose the same method to overcome their sense of loneliness, it will be different.
Alcohol and drugs are the methods chosen by people living in an era of non collective desires. Contrary to those living in the era of collective indulgence culture, they suffer from the condemnation of conscience.
People's views on sex and other things are influenced by culture, that is, the collective consciousness of people in different regions.
The impact on you seems to be a bit excessive, affecting your normal physiological needs.
Suggest a counselor to find the source of depression. What was originally heavy may just be a stone to you now, but you haven't seen it.
