Post Date December, 02 2023
What should the wife do to prevent her husband from making mistakes again after he returns from infidelity? Let's briefly talk about it. Why do husbands make mistakes repeatedly when they return after infidelity? Most men are unwilling to give up their families and mistresses to get married after infidelity, so they always show active repentance after things are exposed, praying that their wives can let bygones be bygones. And what about women? Upon hearing the man's seemingly sincere remorse, I felt that he had returned and easily forgiven him. So, the problem of husbands repeatedly making mistakes after infidelity often arises here:
When a wife first learns of her husband's infidelity, she easily forgives him with just a little coaxing, which makes men feel that the cost of making mistakes is very low. Many times, the ultimate breakdown of their marriage is not due to the severity of their husband's infidelity or the intelligence of their mistress, but rather to the significant issues with their wife's handling. for instance.
I met a woman before, and she received an indecent video of her husband and mistress. She was taken aback and recklessly confided in her misfortune to strangers. The first time I discovered my husband cheating, I cried, made a scene, and hung him three times. In the end, I was persuaded by my family and friends to forgive him. Unfortunately, it wasn't long before he made up, and he cheated again. In order to stabilize her marriage, she resorted to various strange means of redemption. I want to have a child to fill the gap in my relationship, and I also want to undergo plastic surgery to make myself more beautiful and attract his attention. Additionally, I want to enroll in various emotional intelligence classes to improve my emotional intelligence and make him fall in love with me again. However, I still cannot change the situation.
This example is fundamentally about saving for the sake of saving, always striving to please the other party by changing oneself, without realizing that this will only make them feel that you are afraid of losing them and make them feel that the cost is very low. So how can a wife do better after her husband's infidelity? Here are some necessary methods to teach you.
The correct actions of the wife after the husband's infidelity
Tell him the truth about your thoughts
Frankly tell him your inner feelings and thoughts about his infidelity incident, and understand his true reaction. If he is willing to tell you his feelings, he must convince himself to believe his words, not to follow or seek evidence, which is equivalent to self abuse.
Enhance the ability to love
What is the ability to love? Assuming that you have an ordinary appearance and are seen as average in all aspects by others, with your interactions with men, you have won their love through your personal charm, inner cultivation, etc. This proves that this woman has the ability to love.
On the other hand, at the beginning of their relationship, the two were very close, but over time, they suddenly realized that the other person no longer loved them, proving their lack of love ability. Perhaps each of us has a passion for love, but not necessarily the ability to love. In fact, the ability to love is something that everyone needs to possess.
Effectively communicate
For women, having a happy and fulfilling marriage is a lifelong dream. Effective communication is highly likely to lead to a great career in our daily interpersonal interactions. So in a marital relationship, effective communication can quickly resolve misunderstandings and conflicts between spouses.
Don't promote it to the outside world
Although men are promiscuous, they are more concerned about their social image and have a strong sense of self-protection. If outsiders know that he has an extramarital affair, in order to avoid others saying that he is morally corrupt, he will voluntarily submit a divorce certificate to prove that his original marriage is painful and without love, especially for government officials. In order to prove his innocence, he often chooses to divorce.
Learn to have conditional tolerance and take retreat as a way forward
If forgiveness is seen as revenge, always bringing up old things again, the husband who already knew the mistake may become impatient and easily break with you completely by not doing it or not. At this point, if you show a tolerant attitude, it can make him feel guilty, deeply sorry for you, and unable to hurt you again. This will undoubtedly increase the centripetal force for its return. then. Two people can find a reasonable way to vent their injuries and grievances together.
Of course, after your husband's infidelity and return, it is best to have an agreement between you, and it should be in the form of an agreement (additional content can be negotiated, such as property, child custody, etc.). One is that there is an additional constraint on my husband, and the other is to protect my own rights and interests.
Perhaps you cannot tolerate the unfaithfulness of your lover, after all, as the old saying goes: once unfaithful, a hundred times not needed. Perhaps even if he cheats, you are still willing to choose to forgive him and trust him. This is your choice and your freedom, but the path you choose must bear the unknown consequences.
