Post Date December, 03 2023
Why do men like gentle female confidants? Most men want to have a beautiful confidant. Unfortunately, it was difficult to find a trusted beauty; Even if fortunate enough to find one, it is still possible to turn a "beauty confidant" into a "beauty disaster" due to poor mastery of "degree", causing divorce and disharmony.
Beauty confidants value spiritual communication
'More than friends, less than lovers' is people's definition of being a confidant of beauty. Regarding this, Shi Lin, an associate professor at the School of Psychology at Beijing Normal University, explained that a normal female confidant is still more inclined towards friends, which is a pure heterosexual emotion. For the opposite sex of the same age, it can be called a beauty confidant; Those with a large age difference are generally referred to as' forgetful dating '. A beauty confidant can be both a listener of inner confusion and a reader of the soul. But it's completely a spiritual level of communication, and once love or sexual activity occurs, this relationship also collapses
Beauty confidants have a long history, and Russian musicians Tchaikovsky and Madame Meck are good examples. They have been communicating for 13 years, but have never met before. Madame Meck said in the letter, "Our souls are touching, gazing at each other, and talking. You and your music are tapping on my soul every moment." Tchaikovsky also regarded Madame Meck as the only confidant of beauty; And specially wrote her famous works "The Fourth Symphony" and "The Symphony of Sorrow".
Men need female confidants
In the eyes of women, men cannot escape the suspicion of flirtatiousness when looking for their female confidants. In fact, many men just want to have someone to confide in. Song Yumei, a counselor at Tingyu (Beijing) Psychological Counseling Center, believes that men are also vulnerable and need care. But in the family, a man is like an umbrella that covers the wind and rain. He must use a strong appearance to cover up his fatigue and weakness, while a confidant can release a man's negative emotions. In the eyes of men, women have a more delicate mind and are more willing to listen. Their breasts are like mothers, which can bring a sense of security to men.
Shilin also told reporters that couples should not only have a marital relationship, but also have friends and family relationships. But most people are not aware of this, and when a wife does not have friendly communication with her husband, it can make men feel a psychological regret. At this point, beauty confidants become a "necessity".
In addition, vanity makes most men eager to enjoy the care and closeness of women outside of their wives. Song Yumei said, "The biggest difference between a lover and a confidant is that the latter does not involve sex, love, or money, so it is easier to sustain a lifetime. Think about having someone listen to you and silently wait for you in life, which is a kind of luck." Therefore, some people have said that a woman who can be a confidant of a beauty knows how to love and listen, but does not demand or monopolize. It is precisely because of this sense of distance that men can communicate with them more easily, and even share their most private secrets with them.
Have a beautiful confidant, don't hide it from your wife
For men, if they are fortunate enough to have a beautiful confidant, they may consider her as the most gentle secret in their hearts. And Song Yumei said that if a man has a confidant with a beautiful face, it's best to confess to his wife. If you only treat your confidant as a spiritual friend and have no ulterior motives, and your wife is a tolerant person, then you can be completely honest. As a wife, when you learn that your husband has a confidant, you need to give understanding and trust. Since your husband is willing to tell you about this, it means he is unlikely to have mental betrayal and physical infidelity
Why do men like gentle female confidants? In order to avoid female confidants becoming a "disaster" for female friends, men should also remember that "friendship between gentlemen is as light as water", such as not contacting female confidants too frequently and not discussing topics too deeply; The meeting time should not be too late, the location should not be too hidden, etc; Don't go to your beauty confidant for everything, know she's just one of your many friends.
