Post Date December, 03 2023
It is always the husband who suffers from conflicts between husband and wife. They have no right to explain. Even if they say their reasons, they will be regarded as sophistry. However, stupid men will keep talking and pleading for their mistakes, which will not only not be forgiven, but also deepen the anger of their wives; Smart men know that "silence is golden". It is better not to say more than to be sophical.
In fact, the interpretation of language contains your own point of view, and it is easy to make others feel that you are sophistry and exculpatory for your own guilt. Therefore, if there is no reason that can convince the other party 100%, any explanation can be regarded as sophistry. Women hate this way of admitting mistakes. They just need to understand and care.
Women need understanding and care rather than explanation
Women are very emotional. When they are angry, they will not easily forgive men. They need men's understanding and care, not explanation. Only when a woman tells a man her dissatisfaction and vent her emotions can she feel more comfortable, and then she can forgive him. In other words, it doesn't matter whether the man's explanation is reasonable or not. A woman wants a man to understand the reason why she is angry. After she gets the man's understanding and care, she will be calm.
Tips for men to apologize
When a man apologizes to a woman, in order to be forgiven, he should pay attention to his skills in addition to sincerity. First of all, say "sorry" sincerely. After saying "I'm sorry", don't explain, just be ready to listen. When a woman hears the other party's confession, her common reaction is to pour out her feelings and vent her dissatisfaction. At this time, you should not try to explain or argue with her, but listen to her complaints patiently. The complaints of a woman who is in a bad mood must be very unpleasant, but if you want to finish the matter as soon as possible, you'd better bear it, otherwise she will be in a state of uncertainty for several weeks. In fact, a woman just wants to let a man feel her mood when she complains. When she feels the man's care and understanding, the bad mood will disappear.
When a man is evaluating what he has done wrong, he must use negative adjectives to show her that you are sincerely apologizing by denying yourself. This kind of sincere attitude is better than explaining your behavior with any reason. After a woman has complained, he can make other suggestions.
If a man forgets to call a woman, he can say: "Sorry, I forgot to call you, my brain is a bit dull." If a man is with a friend, which makes a woman feel left out, he can say: "Sorry, I just stay with my friend and don't take your feelings into account. I'm really selfish and thoughtless of you." If a man makes a woman angry because he says something wrong, Then he can say, "Sorry, I shouldn't be angry with you. My performance was too bad." If a man is angry with a woman because he is late, he can say, "Sorry, I am late, and the time concept is too bad."
When a man apologizes, using one or more negative words can make a woman feel more comfortable. Only in this way can a woman forgive him as soon as possible.
(Intern editor: Lai Jiaxing)
