Whether an AA marriage is good or not? Couples with an AA marriage need to meet these conditions

What conditions do couples need to meet in an AA marriage? Nowadays, it is not uncommon for couples to implement an AA system after getting married. So, what are the conditions for an AA system marriage? Below is an introduction to relevant knowledge for you.

1、 Couple AA marriage requires five conditions

Nowadays, many young and fashionable newlyweds highly admire the popular AA system of married life from abroad. It is undeniable that the AA system is a product of several cultural concepts. But this way of life also depends on the actual situation. The AA marriage system for couples should meet five conditions and should not be blindly promoted. Otherwise, it may lead to family conflicts.

Many people have a blind worship of the AA system for couples, believing that it is a symbol of fashion and modern knowledge. Is this really the case in real life? Actually, it's not the case. As far as the sky is always blue, in today's Chinese society, the majority of couples still cannot truly accept the AA system emotionally and psychologically.

The reason is simple, there are certain negative aspects to the AA system between couples. It can weaken people's family values, easily imbalance the balance of marriage, deprive the sacrificial party of appropriate protection in marriage, and lead to deviation in family division of labor

So, the AA system between couples does not need to blindly follow the trend, it must be based on the situation of both parties in their marriage and the external environment, and vary from time to person. From the perspective of eternal blue sky, the AA system between couples requires at least the following five conditions:

1. Both spouses have relatively independent and stable sources of income

If one party in a marriage does not have a stable enough source of income, implementing an AA system between spouses is undoubtedly a stab to the other party in the eternal blue sky. Even if the relatively weaker party is willing, doing so still undermines marital harmony and family happiness.

2. Both spouses have relative mutual trust and stability in their emotions

The sky is always blue, and the real difficulty in implementing the AA system between couples is not the economic AA system, which is at most just a form. The most crucial and difficult aspect of implementing the AA system for a long time is the emotional trust and stability between couples.

As some female netizens and Sky Forever Blue have said: I have my own income, and the money I earn is completely enough for my own use. When I ask him about his money, I don't want to manage it, let alone use it, but I really don't trust him where he will spend it!

This is the core of the problem. Even mutual trust is gone, and no matter what the AA system is, it is just empty talk, and even makes it a reasonable excuse for couples to distance themselves and become indifferent.

3. Both spouses have relatively unified life plans and financial plans within the framework of the AA system

In fact, couples can never be indistinguishable. You can put your monthly savings in your own hands, without the other party's penny, or you can prevent the other party from using anything you buy. You can be indifferent and do all of these things. But for the overall direction of a lifetime, that's difficult. When a couple forms a family, there are various risks, opportunities, and development issues in the family. After buying a house for 500000 yuan, it becomes 1 million yuan in a few years. One party needs to continue living, while the other party needs to sell the house. From the perspective of the AA system, each party has half of the control rights, but the house cannot be sold in half. There is also a problem with children's expenses. Even if adults can achieve the AA system, it is still difficult for children to achieve it emotionally and emotionally Couples who cannot even unify their basic life plans, such as various, are clearly not suitable for the AA system. Of course, it's okay to play with individuality and romance in the short term, and occasionally play in the game of marriage.

4. Both spouses allow each other to have a certain amount of private space

Unless the income difference between the couple is not significant, implementing an AA system would be considered interfering with personal space. Think about it, the wealthy can take taxis, eat Western food, and buy expensive clothes, but does the poor manage or ignore it? Regardless, it means giving up your marital rights, or interfering in someone else's private space, unless you can spend as much as he does every day or make him willingly pay for your treat. No matter how it is calculated, it can only be considered as a game in marriage at most. Unless both parties can be so generous as not to interfere with each other's lives at all, allowing each other to have a certain amount of personal space.

5. Both spouses have a certain level of prior consciousness or social hierarchy

Finally, how to implement and constrain the AA system between couples is a matter of game rules. But to truly implement it, there must be an ideological recognition. So what kind of couples are relatively more accepting of the AA system between couples? This requires a certain level of prior consciousness or social hierarchy in the eternal blue sky. At least the things and living environment you come into contact with should be more advanced than traditional concepts. At least you advocate personal independence and freedom, and at least you have encountered some successful and harmonious precedents of the AA system. And from a certain perspective, these are all inextricably linked to the ideological and cultural levels of both spouses. As a girl from my hometown once said: On the first date, if he drinks a drink, he only pays for himself. Even if such a man kills me, I cannot marry him! The girl is right in saying this, and the young man is also right in doing so. The only mistake is that they are in a different time, space, and environment. To put it simply, they are people from two different worlds.

2、 Several ways for couples to get along well

1. Not for the 'mistress'

Many people think that the so-called 'mistress' will only appear after marriage, but in fact, they are not. mistresses can be said to be everywhere. Whether before or after marriage, both spouses will have their own life circles, and it is inevitable to make friends and make friends. But when making friends with the opposite sex, it is important to be cautious and maintain a sense of propriety when interacting. It is best to actively distance friends of the opposite sex who clearly have a good impression or even do not have good intentions towards themselves, and to handle emotional disputes with rationality to avoid third parties interfering in your marital life and affecting the couple's relationship.

2. Be cautious in family matters

Many people think that material things won't interfere with our love, but do you know? Many families with broken relationships are often gradually triggered by financial crises. In some families, money is managed by one party, and if financial disclosure is not possible, family conflicts may arise when one party's economic requirements are not met. These are all worthy of vigilance. Therefore, it is necessary for couples to jointly manage their finances, adhere to the principle of keeping their income within their means, be diligent, thrifty, and budget carefully. Always keep some mobile funds in hand to prevent unexpected use. In this way, financial crises can be prevented in advance and emotional crises can be avoided for thousands of miles.

3. Surprises are everywhere

Love her and give her sexual pleasure, love her and create love surprises for her. This has always been our sexual philosophy, and it is also one of the wonderful ways for couples to get along scientifically. Surprises are loved by everyone, and creating unexpected things from time to time is an emotional stimulant, which is conducive to the rise of couples' emotions. Therefore, in addition to busy life, it is important to create more romantic "accidents" for each other, such as hiding things from each other, sending flowers to the company, buying a desired item for each other, creating an activity that the other is not prepared for but loves very much, etc., all of which can make unexpected surprises arise naturally, Thus, a strong emotional flower bursts out in the surprise, sparking a joyful wave of love.

4. Enough time for sex

Don't overlook the existence of sex for a long time because of your own time constraints. Sex is the seasoning of love, and we cannot ignore it. In the fast-paced competition of modern society, everyone's work is very busy, and many people are too busy with their official duties to pay attention to their romantic life, resulting in couples often unable to eat or sleep together, which affects the consolidation and development of their relationship. So no matter how busy your work is, you need to arrange it cleverly, squeeze out time, and leave it for two people to live together and fall in love together. Wives should boldly discuss sex with their husbands. Wives should not limit their sexual desires, but boldly share their needs and mistakes with their husbands in order to achieve sexual happiness.