Post Date December, 03 2023
My wife has been running business for half a year and has had a relationship with a client. My wife posted their intimate photos on her WeChat (private). I couldn't get through to my wife's phone, so I logged into her WeChat and saw those photos. I went to the place where she was on a business trip overnight, searched all the places where she usually parked, and walked until dawn. I couldn't find her until she came to work in the morning (I called every 3-5 minutes all night). After meeting, I suppressed my anger, Requesting her to take me to meet that client in her usual tone (I occasionally asked her when I heard her on the phone with a very ambiguous tone, but she repeatedly emphasized that it was just an ordinary client and there was no special relationship, and even gave me a fake name), she refused. Finally, I said that all your photos had been sent, and she was afraid that I might know, before she admitted. After returning home, I firmly proposed a divorce. She disagreed, crying and kneeling to ask me to forgive her. Both parents and elderly people also tried hard to persuade and even begged me not to divorce. In the end, I considered that my child was only two years old and could not have an incomplete home, so I made a compromise and did not divorce.
I don't know if I have forgiven my wife. The next day, we climbed onto a mountain and reminisced about our happy past. I don't know how long we talked about it. My wife hugged me and cried and swollen my eyes. As someone who never shed tears, I also shed tears at any time
After that, we said we would start over again, but later on, I always lost my temper inexplicably, argued with my mother, and even scolded my daughter (which I had never done before). It's been two months now, and during these two months, I feel like I'm not myself anymore. Irritability, suspicion, suspicion, distrust, insomnia, and other issues have filled my life, causing me to lose over 10 pounds and not want to work, I have become uninterested in my previous hobbies
Reply from Weiqing Consultant:
First of all, I saw you write, 'I went to her place on a business trip all night, searched all the places where she parked her car, and walked until dawn, but I couldn't find her.' I am very moved by a man like you who is deeply affectionate. I think you still have a deep emotional connection, otherwise you two wouldn't have climbed a mountain the next day, and you, who never shed tears, would have shed tears all over your face. Now, although you say you have tried again, your heart has not forgiven your wife. You attribute all of this to yourself as a victim. So, I would like to ask if your wife is cheating. Do you have any responsibility? Have you ever thought about why your wife cheated, whether she was dissatisfied with you and went out to find emotional support or couldn't resist temptation for a moment? In the past two months, based on your current situation, there have been sequelae of emotional trauma. You can find a professional psychologist to help you with emotional counseling, which will be helpful to you.
