Sexual Health
What's wrong with not turning red on the first night? Is there definitely bleeding in the first sexual intercourse
Why doesn't the first night turn red? On the first night, many women encounter awkward things. For example, there was no bleeding on the first night. So why didn't the first night turn red? Below is an introduction for you.
Some newlyweds or friends who are trying love for the first time have this confusion, why is it normal for them to not bleed after the first break? Today, the editor will take you to answer questions and dispel doubts!
On the first night, many women encounter awkward things. For example, not knowing how to cooperate with a boyfriend, not knowing what orgasm is However, many women do not bleed on their first night, causing their boyfriends to become suspicious and have a negative impact on both parties. In fact, you don't need to be so concerned. It may be a normal phenomenon that you don't see red on the first night.
1、 What does the hymen look like
It is not actually a layer of membrane, but a "banded," petal like structure formed by the vaginal mucosa migrating at the vaginal opening. Its edges can be very smooth, there can be many wrinkles, soft and elastic, and even gynecological aunts cannot distinguish which is a virgin.
2、 Girls have doubts about their first sexual encounter
Women also have doubts about the hymen. It's my first time, why didn't I bleed I was broken at the age of 17, will my future husband dislike me Do you feel familiar seeing these ideas? Perhaps you have a bit of a virgin complex to some extent, but you may not necessarily know that much about that layer of membrane.
3、 The first break won't cause blood to flow into a river
It's like your lips. When your fingers try to enter your lips, as long as the muscles next to the lips are not forcefully contracting and blocking the fingers, your fingers are easily able to enter. Imagine such a soft, bandlike obstruction that only exists at the vaginal opening, how could there be massive bleeding? So, the first swelling and pain is inevitable, and the blood flowing into a river is exaggerated.
4、 Why do men care so much about the hymen
In the eyes of men, the hymen is not just a layer. In the eyes of men, the real idea is this: Virgos depreciate after breaking their virginity! The first time you don't bleed is definitely not a virgin! Finding a girlfriend requires finding a virgin! Non virgins are no longer physically pure, and there is no way to give us pure love as virgins!
5、 It turns out that 60% of girls don't bleed on their first night
Research has found that 60% of girls in China have no pain or bleeding on their first night, while in the Netherlands it is as high as 80%! The so-called pain and difficulty in sexual intercourse are not actually caused by the hymen! That is caused by the pelvic floor muscle spasm and contraction caused by the girl's nervousness. The so-called first night bleeding is actually a deliberately exaggerated effect in TV drama scenes to enhance the situation. Unless the aunt of the female pig foot comes, even if there is bleeding, it is still sporadic.
6、 Don't worry too much if you don't turn red at first night
Myth: Many girls do not bleed the first time, but are told that it may be because they have already damaged the hymen during exercise, causing great psychological stress.
Correct solution: In fact, no matter how much friction is exercised, the vagina is always closed, and it is impossible to damage the hymen during the process. There is nothing wrong with not bleeding the first time, indicating that you are very normal. However, due to the lack of communication between couples, the result is that they do not see red, causing psychological barriers between the two.
Netizens' opinions on this matter:
Snow doll: My first time was with my husband, at 21. It didn't turn red either. The baby is one year old, but I don't know what it looks like to see red. I have always been harboring my husband's views on me.
Luna: Ah Zi is a virgin, but Xiao Longnu is not. Would you choose the former due to the so-called "virgin complex"? The true Bitch is not identified by that layer of membrane, so why bother so persistently.
7、 Precautions for First Night Sex
1. Pay attention to external genital hygiene
On your wedding night, both you and your husband should use warm water and neutral soap to clean the external genitals. Due to purchasing items and entertaining family and friends during marriage, newlyweds are busy and tired, resulting in an increase in smegma in men and vaginal secretions in women. If not cleaned, it is very unsanitary and can affect the sexual desire and health of both men and women.
2. Take proper contraceptive measures
If both men and women do not want to have children immediately and do not take birth control pills, both couples have concerns, and the woman is even more afraid of pregnancy, so their thoughts cannot be highly focused, which can affect their sexual life. If the woman takes the contraceptive pill in a timely manner, or the man wears a condom, both parties will have no worries, focus, and sexual life will achieve satisfactory results.
3. Close cooperation and mutual consideration
When starting sexual activity, both parties may feel shy, especially the woman, who has a more complex psychological state and is a bit nervous. You need to make your husband's movements gentle. If you can't do it at once, you can try more times. The female partner should also actively cooperate, overcome nervousness and fear, actively relax, quickly awaken sexual excitement, secrete more excitatory fluid from the vagina, and have a good lubrication effect. This can reduce the pain during sexual intercourse and also alleviate the pain caused by hymen abrasions.
4. Prevent inflammation of damaged hymen
After the hymen ruptures, there may be slight pain and a small amount of bleeding. Disinfected gauze or cotton swabs should be used to test, and it is best to have sexual intercourse every 2-3 days to prevent inflammation of the wound. If the hymen ruptures and bleeds a lot, the tear is deep, and the pain is unbearable, medical attention should be sought.
5. Treating premature ejaculation correctly
During first sexual intercourse, the male partner may experience premature ejaculation due to lack of sexual knowledge or excessive excitement, resulting in sexual failure. You should forgive this situation, it is not premature ejaculation. With the increase of sexual knowledge and experience after marriage, both parties cooperate in a tacit manner and will quickly return to normal. After ejaculation, men have a period of refractory period, and after the refractory period, they can try sexual intercourse again, which often leads to success.