Post Date December, 02 2023
Everyone in the world will lie. Although everyone thinks it is bad to lie, they will lie intentionally or unintentionally. In fact, lying is a very normal phenomenon, we need not care. But if you often lie, you should pay attention! So what is lying about? Is it a disease? Let's explain the reason why you love to lie, so that you can understand the motivation of lying!
Is lying a disease?
Lying is very common in our daily life. We will lie for various reasons: fear of making others unhappy, hope to get praise, fear of blaming, or some people are simply habitual liars. Facing lies or lying to ourselves, we often take different methods to expose, avoid or simply not find out, because occasionally lying is a human's normal. Some lying phenomena can play a positive role in children's intellectual development, but if you always lie and lie frequently, you should pay attention to it, because frequent lying is actually a type of mental illness.
How to know ourselves and how to deal with the lies of others and our habitual lies requires us to further understand our own mental state and inner desire.
The true face of lies
For lies, we must look at them in two parts. In fact, lying also has positive effects. Some psychologists believe that a child's first successful lie is an important milestone in his intellectual development. A new study found that adults in the United States lie an average of 13 times a week. Faced with this kind of normal reaction, psychologists believe that "lying is part of the normal development and development of human beings, and it is as important as telling the truth. The intelligence of lying is an important ability that distinguishes human beings from other animals.
Generally speaking, lies can be divided into three categories. The first category is "positive lies", which can have a beneficial impact on life. Psychologists believe that this is the instinctive response of people to survive in society. Social psychologist Feldman said that "knowing to lie or distort the truth at the right time is the skill of dealing with people."
The second category is "neutral lies". Many of these lies are not controlled by the consciousness, or will not cause harm to themselves or others if they are said, which is the instinctive protection made by the subconscious. The third category is "negative lies", which will harm yourself or others. The psychological root of such lies is often lies in order to gain the appreciation of others. Our social values tell us to be liked and praised by others. Therefore, our behavior is more inclined to betray our own needs and cater to others' needs in order to be appreciated. If they get it, they will be intoxicated and continue to lie, but they will be more upset if they don't get it.
Therefore, it is an important factor to change the habit of lying to truly face your own inner needs. Face yourself up, learn to love yourself, love your behavior, and love your judgment. In this way, we will not blindly obey or even lie in order to seek love and affirmation from the outside world.
However, it must be noted that if the time and number of lies continue too long, there is a problem. Because we will find that some people can't tell whether they are telling the truth or the lies, whether they are hallucinations or the real situation. In this regard, the most common lie is "boasting". Some people are particularly excited in front of others and like to make up a series of fictional stories about their past. Their overreaction becomes pathological lying, characterized by absolute sincerity to their lies. But if contrary to the fact, they often faithfully change their words. Although their words have credible coherence, they seem unable to judge whether they are true or not. Most of these liars have poor memory and cannot evaluate the accuracy of their own words. Therefore, they tell lies as if they were telling the truth.
These are the reasons for love of lying, although everyone hates lying and cheating. But we can't live without lies! It is these lies that make our life colorful, but these lies must be white!
