Post Date December, 02 2023
The reason why many couples choose to sleep in separate beds is not that they have a bad relationship, but mainly because of their current life situation! For example, the reason why young couples sleep in separate beds may be due to children being the main inducing factor. And middle-aged and elderly couples who choose to sleep in separate beds are worried about snoring interfering with the other party. So, what's wrong with sleeping in separate beds?
Why do couples choose to sleep in separate beds
1. Young Couples - Reasons for Child Separation
One day, at a sexual medicine clinic, a doctor interviewed a 50 year old man who said he had been suffering from erectile dysfunction (ED) for three years. It can be hard in the morning, but it will be soft once you go to my wife's room. It's really not awesome, and my wife is very angry about it.
The doctor inquired in detail and learned that the couple had been separated for the past twelve years since the birth of their son.
The children are all 12 years old, and they still need their mother to sleep with them? "The doctor asked inexplicably. The father of the child said that because the child is always awakened by his mother in the middle of the night to go pee, and he has been sleeping with his mother from childhood to adulthood, he can't separate it for a while. As a result, the sexual life between husband and wife becomes less and less, and the result is that it becomes soft at the critical moment
There is also a couple who split their beds due to their baby, and they divorced after splitting up. Ms. Chen said that at the beginning, everything was for the baby, and she didn't think much about it. However, the relationship between the couple became increasingly weak, and they had to do a lot of preparatory work for each sexual activity. Everyone was very impatient, and over time, they lost interest and gradually moved on to divorce. Ms. Chen said that although bed separation is not the main reason for divorce, there are also 30% -40% of factors that are due to bed separation, the absence of intimate relationships, and the increasing frequency of arguments, ultimately turning the couple into strangers.
2. Middle aged and elderly couples - snoring interferes with each other and requires separate beds
After middle age, some couples start to separate beds for many reasons, such as one partner starting to snore and snore like thunder as they get older, making it difficult for the other party to fall asleep. Another party has serious sleep disorders, such as insomnia, waking up early, and difficulty falling asleep. As soon as they go to bed, they start tossing and turning, to the point of disturbing their partner's sleep.
Of course, there are also some couples whose sexual life is inherently disharmonious, and separating beds and rooms has become the best excuse to avoid sexual activity. When Ms. Liu got married, her husband and wife were in love, but not long after, the two argued over various trivial matters, and her husband became increasingly unhappy, which led to psychological ED. As a result, the two simply slept in separate beds without paying attention to each other.
Some elderly people, due to the constraints of old beliefs, feel that as they get older, couples should no longer sleep together, making their sons and grandchildren feel disrespectful towards old age, so they gradually sleep in separate beds.
3. Expert opinion: couples should not separate beds, let alone rooms
Husband and wife embracing each other and sleeping, originally the best annotation of intimate relationships, separate beds, whether you admit it or not, the degree of intimacy has decreased. The sexual needs of couples can lead to apathy due to long-term bed separation, and men's sexual function can be affected by "using in or out", ultimately leading to disharmony in their marital life and even family breakdown.
No matter what age, couples should not sleep in separate beds. People need the temperature of love, and if they are separated into different beds or even rooms, emotional communication will definitely be affected. Sexual activity is an indispensable and important component of a couple's relationship, serving as a lubricant. It is often unpredictable for many people to sleep together after a long time of bed separation.
