What to do with postpartum frigidity and how to recover sexual activity after giving birth

Zhao Min (pseudonym) gave birth to BB by caesarean section on November 24th last year, The doctor said it would be three months before I could have sex. My husband made a request to me at three months, but I didn't seem to have any reaction, feeling like I was dealing with him, very uncomfortable. Now eight months have passed, and last week he asked again, but I still haven't responded. Maybe after giving birth to BB, all my energy is focused on BB. Once in the middle of the night, when he grabbed my hand, I actually shook his hand and said, 'I need to breastfeed my child.' Don't turn around at once, you didn't talk to me again the next day. I'm worried that something will happen if it goes on like this, but I can't do without my child or husband

Zhao Min sought medical attention for this. The director of obstetrics and gynecology at the hospital said that there are many patients with postpartum sexual apathy, specifically postpartum emotional transfer. According to clinical statistics, women suffer from Sexual dysfunction, which is three times that of men.

Female sexual arousal disorder is usually closely related to "gynecological diseases" or "abuse" of certain drugs. In addition, after giving birth, the role of women at home has changed, from being a wife to a mother, which consumes a lot both mentally and physically. For example, they have to breastfeed their children, coax them to sleep, and sometimes get up at midnight to soak milk powder. The change in the pace of life has a strong impact on the Circadian clock. A large amount of physical expenditure makes them unable to take into account their husband's feelings.

Regarding the issue of sexual apathy in postpartum women, Director Huang suggests that husbands should be more considerate of their wives at this time. Adopting a tough attitude can actually backfire. The correct approach is to care more about your wife and help take care of your children together in daily life. In this way, the wife's physical strength is replenished and she will naturally take the initiative to cooperate. It is understandable that the wife is not interested in sexual life due to physical reasons, not the so-called "frigidity", and should be given more care and love. It is natural for one to have too weak a constitution and reduce sexual activity. Husbands should also pay attention to learning communication skills with their wives. Skills are necessary for interaction between the sexes. You should know how to open the curtain of sex, how to attract the other person's attention, and take the initiative to attack on a night that has special significance for couples. You can learn relevant knowledge through experts, friends, or some books. Of course, the most important thing is practice.

Getting rid of the misconception of postpartum frigidity

Many girls experience a loss of self-confidence after childbirth, and the change in body shape brings them a great sense of loss. Some women believe that giving birth through the birth canal can cause vaginal relaxation and prevent their husband from feeling happy. Director Huang Yajuan introduced that the hospital has established pelvic floor training, stress testing, and other sexual function recovery treatments for postpartum women, which can help them have a better sexual life as soon as possible.

Physiologically, after childbirth, the delivery of the placenta causes a rapid decrease in hormone levels in the body, which in turn have a promoting effect on sex. Normal women will naturally recover their hormone levels within a year. In addition, the decrease of Vaginal discharge after childbirth is also the reason why some women lack passion after childbirth. Director Huang Yajuan introduced: "Many women have feelings of rejection, boredom, and even fear towards sex due to a lack of internal secretions and excessive vaginal pain during their first sexual encounter three months later.

In addition, too many induced abortions and some Endocrine disease can lead to frigidity. A female white-collar worker in her thirties who has had 17 miscarriages said, "I have an average of 2-3 miscarriages a year, and now my physical condition is terrible. As the weather changes, I can catch a cold, have a headache, and feel weak all over. How can I still be in the mood for such a body? I don't even want to have sex now

The director of the hospital's gynecology department told these troubled women that sex is an important part of defining happiness. Any attitude of avoidance and contempt is incorrect. Sexual life not only includes interaction between the sexes, but also communication and exchange between couples. Try to relax your emotions, disperse various pressures and biases, and regain your initial passion and impulses.

Couple cooperation treatment is more effective

Experts believe that the most crucial thing is to strengthen awareness of sexual apathy and not to avoid this issue. Actively seek the help of a doctor, and not delay treatment due to shyness in speaking up. It is necessary to strengthen the learning of sexual knowledge, correctly grasp sexual knowledge and approach sexual life, and face problems with a relaxed attitude. To achieve success in these treatments, it often requires the cooperation of both spouses. A hug, kiss, or intimate whisper from a loved one can sometimes reignite their passion for life.

In addition, in daily life, pay attention to rest, arrange time reasonably, reduce bad habits, strengthen nutrition, eat a balanced diet of meat and vegetables, exercise more, and maintain a healthy physique. If there is still depression in this area, some medication can also be used in combination.