What to do when a couple loses their sexual interest? What methods can reignite their desires

Question: My husband is my first love. I love him very much. Since I met him, I have known that this is the person I want to love for a lifetime. Fortunately, he also has feelings for me. As long as I don't see him for two days, I will miss him very much. But there is a problem that has been weighing on my heart, which is that I don't have a "sexual interest" in my husband. We have only been married for less than half a year, but we may only have a one-time life once a month, sometimes only once every two to three months, and I have been extremely reluctant to do so because I am afraid of facing his disappointed gaze. I clearly love him, why doesn't he have sexual expectations and interests?

Answer: Your question is not a case, many people have this confusion. Some people, although they love their significant other very much, have no feelings about sexual contact. This phenomenon may be related to the following psychological factors:

Intimacy phobia

Avoid true intimacy. Sex is a special adhesive that binds men and women together. When you and your husband are having sex instead of just having regular sex, the unparalleled and shocking intimacy is indescribable. On the surface, you may not like sex, but your behavior of falling in love with a man without sexual attraction to him is likely due to your unintentional avoidance of true intimate relationships in life. Your subconscious is reminding yourself not to be too close to your husband, otherwise you will become fragile and even lose control.

Sexual phobia disorder

Some people not only avoid intimacy but also have a fear of sex. There are many reasons for this mentality, such as: you were sexually assaulted or abused when you were young; Having been raped; Having an disharmonious sexual relationship with a previous boyfriend or husband; Your parents have a bad relationship or your loved ones have been sexually abused; Other unfortunate sexual experiences that you cannot forget, and so on.

Due to various reasons mentioned above, you may unconsciously fall in love with men who cannot stimulate your sexual interest, or you may not be aware of your sexual fear disorder. You may think it's incredible, why do you fall in love with him but dislike having sex with him? If there is indeed no sexual chemistry between you and your husband, you may need to first solve your own sexual psychological problems. Otherwise, your relationship will be difficult to maintain for too long, and you will also be immersed in the confusion of love and sex and unable to get rid of it. Suggest visiting a good psychologist and making a plan to get out of the shadow of sex.

Control Syndrome

When you have sexual fantasies and attraction towards someone, in fact, you give them some control or opportunity to some extent. If you have a strong desire for control or are often afraid of losing control, you will inadvertently fall in love with a partner who lacks sexual appeal, maintain your "safe" territory, and cover up your inner vulnerability. Due to not having too much sexual contact, you can leave room for emotional space and maintain distance, thereby creating the illusion of control in the marital relationship.

Unhappy First Sex

If you give it to your husband for the first time, but the first time is not so harmonious, it may leave a psychological shadow on you, such as pain and other issues, causing you to have no good feelings for sexual life. In fact, during the first sexual encounter, pain is very normal. With the passage of time and the enrichment of sexual experience, you will gradually experience the joy of sex.

In short, all of the above issues may lead to a lack of interest in sex. But perfect sex is the foundation of a couple's relationship. Only when sexual life is harmonious can the relationship between husband and wife be more stable and long-lasting, so it is necessary to solve this problem.

Couples need to engage in sexual communication

Since they are the closest couple, they can talk about everything and need to communicate and communicate about their sexual life. If you are not interested in sex, first tell your husband to know, and then work together to find out the reason and solve the problem. You can also try sex toys, such as Durex Strawberry Flavor Human Body Lubricant, which can effectively relieve vaginal dryness and bring a nourishing "sexual" pleasure to add lingering charm. The fragrant taste of strawberries can also make you more relaxed and engaged in experiencing sex.