What to do if leftover women are always urged to get married? How can leftover women get married

Why are leftover women being urged to marry? From 'If You Are the One' to 'Let's Date', blind date shows have become increasingly popular and ratings have skyrocketed. The term 'leftover girl' is becoming increasingly well-known, why are girls left behind? Why are leftover women being urged to marry? Below will explain for you.

The "leftover women" are not a mysterious group, they are a group of older female young people with high education, high income, and age who cannot find an ideal home in marriage. They are also known as "3S women": Single (single), Senventies (mostly born in the 1970s), StuCK (stuck) - single. Some people jokingly say that leftover women can be divided into four levels: "leftover warriors", "inevitably leftover guests", "fighting leftover Buddha", and "Qi Tian Da Lu".

At the age of 25-27, they are junior leftover customers who still have the courage to continue fighting for a partner, hence they are called "leftover fighters"; At the age of 28 to 30, they are intermediate leftover customers. At this time, there are not many opportunities for them, and they have no time to search for them due to their career, so they are nicknamed "inevitable leftover customers"; At the age of 31-35, he is a senior leftover customer who survived the brutal workplace struggle and remains single, earning him the title of "Battle leftover Buddha"; At the age of 35 and above, that is the super leftover customer, who should be revered as the "Qi Tian Da leftover".

Many highly educated and high-income women are indeed excellent, and there are many reasons why they are left behind. Either they have a high vision for choosing a partner, or they have a strong feminist consciousness, or they pursue careers and miss out on love, or they have been hurt in love, or they passively wait for the arrival of love. No matter what the reason is, leftover women are still very eager for love in their hearts, but they often adopt a cautious attitude and refuse to lower their requirements for choosing a partner, gradually becoming "leftover".

Family members, especially parents, are very nervous about their daughter's life. Watching her daughter achieve success in her career without a man to take care of her, without a stable family that belongs to her, and with girls of the same age already married and having children, how can parents not be anxious or nagging? Every time during festivals or holidays, when returning home, leftover women often encounter Chinese style reminders of marriage. On the way for leftover women to search for the right one, there will always be parents who will work tirelessly for their daughters.

The following is a summary of the main reasons why parents urge marriage, hoping to resonate with everyone:

1. Traditional views on marriage

The Chinese style concept of marriage requires matching families and marrying men and women. Although society has progressed and many outdated ideas have long been replaced by new ones, the Chinese style concept of marriage has penetrated into the minds of many people, and their existence has had a subtle impact on our lives. The traditional idea of marrying a woman has always been passed down and applied.

2. Parents' Hopes

The parents have put in a lot of effort to arrange blind dates, hoping that their daughter can settle down soon and have someone to take care of her on their behalf. Daughters have always been a treasure in the hearts of their parents, the pearl in their hands. But as their parents grow older, they always have a lot to worry about their daughter's affairs. They hope that someone can take over their parents' position, take care of their daughter by her side, and give her love.

3. About Inheritance

The continuation of a family, the inheritance of incense, requires the inheritance of lineages. Parents always firmly believe that there are three ways to be unfilial and that having no offspring is the greatest. The ultimate event of a daughter's life is not just about her alone, but more importantly, the continuation of a family tradition. Daughters should have a sense of responsibility and be responsible for their families. Parents also hope to see their grandchildren and grandchildren in their lifetime, with a family full of grandchildren.

Through the matter of Xiaofei, the editor is thinking that parents urging marriage is out of consideration for their daughter's happiness, hoping that her daughter can find happiness as soon as possible. But their approach may be too urgent and intense, leading to minor tragedies. There is a significant difference between parents' views on marriage and those of leftover women. Regardless of who they are, they should consider the issue from both sides' perspectives. Marriage is a major event in life, and one should not get married just because of it. In fact, every elderly female youth yearns for a truly happy marriage that belongs to them. However, the process of searching for dreams is a bit difficult. The editor hopes that their parents can give them more time to grow. The editor believes that every person who seeks happiness on the path of love will eventually reap that happiness.

The reasons why it is difficult for leftover women to marry

1. Advocate for freedom

Some women are very independent, and the reason they are left behind is too much because they love freedom. She is busy with work, fitness, watching exhibitions, listening to concerts, meeting friends, and taking vacations. But she didn't have a minute for herself. In fact, she made her life so fulfilling precisely to leave no room for men, so that they could not have a place in her life.

2. Waiting for the right person

This is one of the reasons why most leftover women are left behind, waiting for the person they are most satisfied with. She may have shown intelligence, ability, and sobriety in many fields. However, when facing feelings, she seemed to be in the Ivory Tower, waiting for her prince charming, and her fear was hidden behind romance and pure love. But her life is a challenge to mediocrity. She will keep waiting!

3. Don't want to experience another injury

Why can't leftover women get married? She, who had suffered emotional harm before, was afraid of experiencing pain again. She was addicted to the pain brought about by love and couldn't extricate herself. She couldn't come out of an illusory relationship. Alternatively, she always has a dream lover. For her who has been hurt, she cannot control her own life and is forever immersed in past emotions, so she refuses new relationships.

4. Men are afraid of me

This type of woman may be strong in her career, giving others a sense of confidence, but no one can see the extreme need for care in her heart. Because she rejects the hopes and needs of emotional life, she has to make herself more independent and autonomous. She hopes to become the leader of her own life, and she believes that no one can meet her requirements. Someone may say that she looks up to herself. But in reality, she has been hovering between inferiority and arrogance.

5. Can't touch the other half

This is a type of resignation, they always tell themselves that they cannot meet their partner because she is not willing to take risks. She already told herself that she will definitely lose before going to the battlefield. She refused to face the potential danger of her relationship. Her rejection of emotions is a cover for her lack of confidence. Perhaps this type of woman has too much inferiority complex in her life, or there are people around her who constantly tell her to lose weight in order to meet her partner, so the inferiority complex is spreading in her heart.

6. Platonic Love

Why don't leftover girls get married? This type of leftover girl enjoys her job and has many friends around her. Overall, she knows how to manage interpersonal relationships, provided that it does not involve sex. What she needs is Platonic love rather than sex. Nowadays, celibacy has been accepted by everyone, and she simply adopts this form to avoid sex. As time passes, her fear of sex will gradually deepen.

7. She's a nurse type

The reason why this type of leftover woman cannot marry out is because she believes that all she encounters are failures in life. She believes that only when she has practical value can the other party love her. She is often attracted to men with scars and tries to heal his wounds. But this is a sexual relationship built on pain. This is an uncertain relationship, and when the person's injury healed, they left her.