What to do if a parent is caught during sexual activity by a child? How should parents do a good job of educating their children about sex

When children are young and adults sleep together at night, it's important to pay attention when adults are intimate. Be sure to wait for the child to fall asleep before their passion collides, and avoid being hit by the child. If a child accidentally sees you, seize this opportunity and provide them with sexual enlightenment education.

What should I do if I am caught by a child when it's popping?

1. Parents may feel startled, shy, or even angry, which is a very normal psychological reaction in the situation at that time; But it is important to maintain composure and digest this emotion in the shortest possible time. Do not angrily scold the child, as it will exacerbate their sense of shame and guilt. In addition to quickly covering up and adjusting the body posture, attention should be shifted to the child as soon as possible, and this process should be as natural as possible.

2. If a child asks' What are you doing? ', it means they are not aware of it yet, and this is a great opportunity for sex education. Children have the right to be informed, and parents also have the right to be informed. What should they tell their children? Tell them that this is a manifestation of parental love, that sexual behavior has been a natural behavior of humans since ancient times, and that it also has its unique rules. Based on the child's age, explain it concisely in a language that he understands, as it is also an unexpected event for the child and he is not mentally prepared for it, so it is not appropriate to make a lengthy statement. The principle is to start with rhetorical questions, such as "What do you think we are doing?" to understand where the child's curiosity lies, rather than being stuck in the parent's own embarrassment about sex, making it difficult to speak up. If a child keeps asking, parents should also stop at a moderate pace because there is too much information that the child cannot digest in a timely manner, especially since the current state of parents is not fully prepared to provide sex education to their child. Therefore, utilizing their child's curiosity can continue to educate them on sex knowledge in the near future.

3. If the child does not speak and turns around to walk away (pretending to sleep), it indicates that the child feels uncomfortable in the scene. It is not yet known whether he truly understands what sex is all about. At this time, parents should not actively communicate with their children. It is important to proactively understand children's understanding of sex in the near future and provide appropriate education on sexual knowledge.

4. If a child expresses any negative emotions, parents should communicate with the child in a timely manner as soon as possible. It is best to understand the reasons for the negative reactions of the child. If the child refuses to communicate, parents should also actively express themselves, such as "we are not fighting; he is not bullying me; we have not done anything shameful; we are willing to do such things; we love each other, which is one of the ways adults express love; this is our privacy, we are not with you, it is not that we do not love you anymore", and so on. The purpose is to seize the opportunity, prevent or promptly correct children's negative attitudes towards sex, and even misconceptions.