Post Date November, 16 2024
The method of dispatching loneliness can be used as soon as possible, but if it is really useless to you, learn to enjoy loneliness. The method of dispatching loneliness is aimed at people who cannot tolerate loneliness. Loneliness is not that difficult to endure.
Eliminate loneliness
If a person feels oppressed for a long time, over time, they will feel lonely and even cause psychological illness. But loneliness is inevitable. No matter how much satisfaction we get in work or play, loneliness always comes to mind in the dead of night. If you are really lonely and unbearable, then teach you some good ways to eliminate loneliness from your daily life.
1. Find something to do: Do whatever you like, do as you please, without considering any factors around you (of course, don't violate laws or regulations), which can help you dispel loneliness. When you are completely engrossed in your favorite things, you can naturally forget everything and no longer lament loneliness and helplessness.
2. Find a friend: Find a few like-minded friends and share your likes, dislikes, and emotions with them.
3. Returning to nature: Nature is known as the ultimate destination of human souls, and when integrated into it, we will feel calm, stable, harmonious, and happy. Go into nature and drive away all the stuffiness; Inject new life force.
4. Moderate amount of work: Eight hours from nine to five may not be enough to handle your heavy workload, but do not overdo it. Everything should be done in moderation, as excessive workload will only exacerbate your sense of loneliness! Some people work hard due to loneliness, leaving themselves with no time to think, but don't forget that work is not a good way to escape, it only exacerbates personal loneliness. Actively face loneliness!
5. Consanguinity: Parents, brothers and sisters are your best confidants. After all, you have the same background and history and are connected by blood. Your family always stands by your side and supports you. Don't forget to visit frequently to greet you!
6. Helping others for pleasure: There are tens of thousands of people in the world who need your sympathetic hand. In addition to financial support, their hearts also need the care of others. Properly participating in public welfare activities will help you no longer overly obsessed with the troubles of loneliness.
7. Spring of Vitality: Exercise is beneficial for physical and mental development, and can effectively drive away depression and sadness. Fitness activities will make your body and mind feel comfortable, full of vitality, and healthy.
Loneliness is the emptiness in our hearts, a manifestation of a person's immaturity. We cannot avoid loneliness, but we can choose our way of life, and we can completely find our own joy in life. Some people say that loneliness can make a person more mature. I hope everyone can mature after being lonely. If not, I hope the above methods can help you.
If you can't solve it, then learn to enjoy loneliness
Be prepared, pursue, and then be willing to be lonely. Wang Guowei once said in his book "Human Ci Hua" that in ancient and modern times, one must go through three different realms in order to achieve great success and great knowledge. The first realm is "Last night, the west wind withered the green trees, climbed the tall buildings alone, and looked at the distant roads". What kind of loneliness is it, with leaves falling and shadows hanging together, climbing high and looking far, and the road endless? But it is this kind of loneliness that can cultivate brilliant flowers. Only by striving in loneliness and moving forward in loneliness can we climb to the unbearable heights. In loneliness, one nourishes oneself and accumulates strength. In loneliness, one struggles with one's mind, strains one's muscles and bones, starves one's body and skin, lacks one's body, and disrupts one's actions. Only then can we reach the third level of success: searching for him thousands of times in the crowd, suddenly looking back, that person is in the dim light. All things are in the clouds, each returning to its roots. Returning to its roots is called stillness, and stillness is called destiny-- The Tao Te Ching of Laozi
Mr. Nan Huaijin warned young people who aspire to pursue education and cultivate morality throughout their lives, saying, "You must first prepare to be lonely for a lifetime. To be willing to be lonely for a lifetime is not enough, but to go even further and understand how to enjoy loneliness." Mr. Nan listed a story he read in the notes of the Qing Dynasty to support the proposition of "preparing for loneliness. After retiring, a clean and upright official returned home for retirement and saw someone selling live fish on the street. After inquiring about the price, he looked at his wallet and found that he was penniless and had to return empty-handed. Go back and talk to your wife about this matter. She said, 'Why don't you write him a note?'? The old man was surprised: IOUs? The lady only said that if you write the word "upright official" on the note, the vendor will give you the fish. The old man chuckled after listening. Mr. Nan just used this to tell people that living for morality inevitably feels lonely and desolate, but only by treating loneliness as an enjoyment can we further cultivate morality. On the contrary, if you view loneliness as pain rather than enjoyment, then don't be there waving flags and shouting for nobility. Enduring loneliness can be considered a sage. Looking at Confucius, we will have a deeper understanding. Today, Confucius is renowned and worshipped, but he was very humble back then. He traveled with his disciples to various countries, sometimes unable to eat, making it a bit awkward to beg around. Is Confucius incapable of acquiring wealth? No! Confucius had three thousand disciples and seventy-two sages, all of whom were temporary heroes and elites. If Confucius were not a wise master, how could there be many high disciples? Regarding wealth and power, for Confucius, it is neither possible nor practical. Confucius once said that wealth and power are what each of us wants, but he also added that if we give up morality because of the pursuit of wealth, then wealth is like a floating cloud on the horizon to me. Compared to wealth, Confucius pursued morality. In that era of corrupt etiquette and music, Confucius hoped for a stable society, which required education to maintain. Therefore, Confucius was willing to endure hardships and devoted himself to education throughout his life. To endure loneliness, one must give up the hustle and bustle, refuse impatience, have perseverance, and have integrity. The saying goes, 'Those who have eternal cause but no permanent property, only scholars can do it'. To summarize Confucius' actions throughout his life in the words of Mencius, it is also true.
Life is also like this.
