What should I do if my husband confesses to cheating and repents of his infidelity, but still keeps going with my mistress

My husband and I have known each other for 22 years. We had a relationship for 7 years before getting married, but last year he told me he had a woman outside after getting drunk. Although I had a premonition about this, I still felt a swirling sensation. He told me that it was just a scene at the beginning, but later that woman really fell in love with him, and my husband also felt very happy and happy with him!

I thought a lot at the beginning, lying alone in bed without eating or drinking for three days, I just thought about what I should do? I wanted to help him, but I didn't want the child to have a complete family, so in the end, I chose not to give up. I talked to my husband about our acquaintance and our lives. It was my husband who pursued me at the beginning, and I hesitated whether to marry him, but he promised me happiness with unwavering promises. I said, haven't we ever been happy before? I said after you divorced me and got married to her for 10 years and 20 years, do you think you are still as happy and happy as you are now? Perhaps it's not as good as the life you and I have now, after all, we still have a son, and you and she have nothing (that woman is no longer able to have children).

My husband later promised not to contact her again and said he would break up with her, but I found out that he had repeatedly deceived me. He took her on a trip on her birthday, bought her household appliances, and he was also planning to buy her a car. He said they had agreed to break up, but he felt sorry for her as a divorced woman with a child.

I don't know if I should still believe what he said, and I don't know if I should still live with him? I have also thought about divorce many times, but seeing the child who is currently in a rebellious period of youth, I once again dispelled this idea. But as it goes on like this, I feel that life is meaningless and that I am suffering from depression. If it weren't for the thought of children, I really wouldn't have the courage to live! What should I do?

reply:

Regardless of gender, once infidelity occurs, it is easy to repeat the same old trick and repeat the same mistakes. Unless the parties involved can express remorse from the bottom of their hearts, realize that their actions are grossly wrong, or be ruthless enough to make them pay a high cost for their actions, it is difficult to completely contain them.

Your husband confessed his infidelity after being drunk, which can be said to be true after being drunk. Unfortunately, he did not take real action in his actions and still couldn't let go of the woman outside. It seems that his diligent advice is not effective for him. Perhaps that woman does indeed have a charm that attracts him, and in this regard, you need to reflect on your own problems. For example, your husband may feel happy and happy with that woman, but why is he not with you? He may think that woman is very pitiful and willing to buy things for her, but why doesn't he think you are pitiful? What is the difference between you and that woman? If you don't want to give up this marriage, you must work hard to make amends.

Generally speaking, most men's infidelity is the result of improvisation, and they may not love each other too much, so they will not easily abandon their family. Your husband doesn't seem that simple. Although he may not have proposed a divorce to you, or even voluntarily admitted to the infidelity after drinking and expressed regret, his heart still lies with the woman outside. Over time, it's hard to say that he won't fall in love with her deeply. For this, you need to carefully examine the current situation of your marriage and always be prepared for the worst. Of course, as a last resort, marriage is the best thing to fix and the best thing to save. If you try your best and still cannot do anything, then you can only let nature take its course. If the other party has no feelings for this marriage, no love for you, and cannot completely cut off contact with the other party, then you don't need to treat it as your only one. Let it go, let it go, and don't use children as excuses, Don't let yourself fall into too negative and extreme situations because it's not worth it to be wronged or tortured. You should know that marriage is not all about women, and life needs to have richer content. I hope you can think of it.