Post Date December, 02 2023
Netizens confide:
My husband and I have known each other for four years and married for three years. My husband fell in love with a girl when he was studying and had a pregnancy, and also had business contacts. I care about my husband's past very much, and I often quarrel with him! Due to business contacts, I often contact with my husband's ex-girlfriend's husband. He is more handsome than my husband, has a good temper and is very family oriented. We often keep in touch with each other through WeChat. Later, I found that I liked each other. What should I do?
[Reply]
Hello, it should be said that you are on the verge of danger, and may cause the two families to break up in a flash. You are playing a potential killer threatening the stability of marriage, which is not alarmist. Once you cross the moral bottom line and have abnormal feelings with this man, you will not be unclear about the consequences.
In fact, in my opinion, you may not really like this man, or your compensation and revenge may be at work, because you care about your husband's past, because he has had a good relationship with his ex-girlfriend, and also had a miscarriage, so your heart will be unbalanced. This is not right. To love a person means to accept his present and past. After all, the past is the past. Why should we take it so seriously. Although your husband may still have contact with his ex-girlfriend because of business contacts, as long as you do not find and catch them having abnormal contacts, you should not be confused and jealous, but should cherish the existing relationship and family.
Now, it is you who is not normal. You are the one who has a perverse mind. As a married woman, you should always remind yourself of self-respect and self-love. Don't indulge yourself. It is easy to fall into everlasting hatred. So, what you need to do now is to bury your love for this man deep in your heart and try to deliver this feeling to your husband. Because we are all family people, we have no right to like other men anymore, unless you first dissolve your existing marriage relationship and return yourself to single status. Even so, the man must also like you, and he also wants to divorce and become single, Otherwise, you are a junior. Is that what you want?
Think about it, learn to control yourself. A person who knows how to control his abnormal emotions is a mature person, and can have a happy life and family.
Netizens confide:
I'm nearly 26 years old, and I think I can only have sex with people I marry. I like first love very much, but I didn't cross the line when I didn't get married. My current boyfriend is my second boyfriend. When I told him that I was still a virgin, he was not full of joy I expected, but he hated my inexperience. I feel inferiority. He proposed to me. Should I marry him? What should I do?
[Reply]
Hello, first of all, I think you are a good girl, who knows self-love, is principled and has a bottom line, which is nothing bad. Generally speaking, men have a virgin complex. It's really nice and exciting to meet a virgin as a girlfriend. But why does your boyfriend not only feel unhappy, but also dislike your inexperience. On the one hand, it shows that your boyfriend is not cultivated enough and does not know how to cherish, but also has a lot to do with the environment of this era.
In the current social environment, the voice of "sexual liberation" and "sexual freedom" is constantly heard and highly respected by many young people, and the traditional sexual concept has been impacted to some extent. Now, although virgins are rare, even precious, many men have not taken it seriously. The good qualities of conservatism and chastity are not necessarily advocated by men, but are considered by them to be old-fashioned, outdated and out of fashion.
Your boyfriend or many of them are less or less influenced by this idea. He thinks that it is impossible for a girl to be alone after having a love experience. If she is still a virgin, it is unreasonable or even weird, or she lacks female charm. She is not only disrespectful but also despised and cold-eyed.
In this case, you don't need to be too concerned about and inferiority complex for your boyfriend's abnormal response. There is no need to inferiority complex. It is not you who should inferiority complex, but those girls who don't understand self-love and don't stick to the bottom line. And you should be glad for what you have done, because you haven't met someone who really understands you and cherishes you.
As for whether you should marry this boyfriend, it depends on the extent of your relationship. In addition to this difference in sexual concepts, it depends on whether he really loves you, respects you and has common values. Of course, if you really want to be in love and love someone well, you can also adjust your view of love appropriately. You don't have to deliberately protect yourself. As long as we are neither open nor conservative, let everything be natural and follow the true call of your heart, maybe this kind of feeling is more true and humane. Even if you lose your life before marriage, it's not a problem.
