What should I do if I am not interested in Chinese men after serving as a junior for French men for five years

I am 34 years old and have experienced some twists and turns in my relationship. When I was in my 20s, I got along with a rich second generation boyfriend, but it didn't take long for this relationship to die. My boyfriend finally let me return to the single state with his flirtatious and heartless abandonment. At this time, I was 25 years old.

Later, I worked as a waiter in an upscale western restaurant and met a French man with gentle appearance and extraordinary temperament, who worked in China for a long time. We met by chance. He was doing business in China and was considered a rich businessman. During a meal, I accidentally left my wallet on the table and was just seen by me. I took it back to him. He was very moved at that time, nodded to me and thanked me. He took out a wad of money from his wallet and gave it to me. I didn't accept it. So he left me a business card. Then we got in touch with each other. At that time, he appreciated my beauty very much, and I especially liked his elegant temperament, His mysterious feeling with exotic feelings deeply attracted me. So we soon fell in love and had a relationship.

I thought I could make a successful marriage with him this time and marry this romantic and connotative foreign man. However, there were not only language barriers between us, but also communication difficulties. Later, his wife came to China from France to see him, which made me wake up from a dream. It turned out that he had a family, which hit me very hard. I found him in tears and wanted to break up with him. He held me in his arms and didn't talk. Next, I still couldn't leave him and began to be his underground lover crazily. In fact, he is a man with strong possessive and control desire. He often brainwashes me and is very bossy. He does not allow me to contact other men except him. Later, I felt more and more that I had no sense of freedom, felt suffocated in life, and could not enjoy the feeling I wanted. After five years with him, he said that he would return to France and could not come to China for a long time. He asked me whether to go with him or not. I finally decided to leave him painfully.

Destiny made me fall into the lonely state of being single again. I had tears on my face, and I was also in pain and helplessness. It was not satisfactory to change several jobs. My friends and family introduced me to my boyfriend, but I couldn't get out of the shadow of the past. Every time I met a Chinese man, I would instantly think of the French man. He lingered in my mind. I don't know why? I really want to live in the mind control of this French man. I don't know what to do? How can I get out?

reply:

1. Many times, beautiful encounters can only be beautiful for a while, even if they are not well grasped, and there will be unexpected disasters hidden. Therefore, when you are young, you need to be careful not to go astray or be tempted by the romance of fireworks. Sometimes, deliberately following romance will eventually hurt romance.

2. Women should not fall into the blind alley of "worshiping foreign countries and courting foreign countries" emotionally. Foreign men have the charm of foreign men, while Chinese men have the advantages of Chinese men. What do you mean to be brainwashed by that French man? It is clearly that you are not worthy of it. The French man is romantic and warm again, and will please women again, but he finally deceived you, occupied you emotionally, desecrated you, and made you sad. Besides, he is also very overbearing, and all of this is the result of your willingness to go through fire and water and lead your own performance. Knowing that he has a family and a wife, you still have to continue to communicate with him, isn't it self-destruction and indulgence?

3. Many women are unhappy in the emotional field, and even spend their whole life with pain. In fact, it is related to their lack of self-purification and self-respect when they are young. No matter when and where, women should never have the mentality of playing life. Even in love, they should consciously remind themselves to keep a little calm. Only when they are sober enough, can you follow the right path in their hearts.

4. Don't hesitate to say that your pain is self-inflicted, and the so-called shadow is also self-inflicted. In fact, there is no puzzle that can't go out, only the puzzle that doesn't want to go out. As long as you dare to overcome yourself, fate won't keep you trapped for too long. You need to understand that all unbearable past is not worth collecting. Why not have trouble with the past? People who compete with the past are either crazy or stupid. People should learn to live in the present, enjoy the present, actively, optimistically and healthily enjoy the present life, change your thoughts and ideas, and the future is still in your hands. As long as you do it, as long as you have the courage to transcend the new self, you are not far from happiness. I believe you can do it!