What should couples pay attention to in harmonious sexual life? Three key points that couples must know about sexual intercourse

What should couples pay attention to in a harmonious sexual life? Harmonious sexual life after marriage is an important guarantee for a happy marriage, so what should couples pay attention to in harmonious sexual life? Below is an introduction to the relevant knowledge for you.

1、 The personality that affects the sexual well-being of couples

Sexual activity is a concentrated reflection of a person's overall psychological quality. Many personality flaws can affect the coordination and satisfaction of sexual life. That is to say, some people not only have difficulty having sex with their current spouse due to certain flaws in their personality, but may also be unable to coordinate sexual life with anyone.

For such people, the most important thing is not to complain about the other person or blindly learn sexual skills, but to strive to improve their personality first.

People who have been pampered since childhood and have always been centered around themselves often demand each other in their sexual life. The most common situation is that some people have been spoiled and spoiled since childhood, always putting themselves at the center, so they lack the ability to understand others, let alone life in this world. They should try to understand the weaknesses and shortcomings of others, and should be forgiving and forgiving. Such people often demand each other in their sexual life, and once conflicts arise, they will only engage in cruel struggles and will not actively compromise or compromise, and it is also difficult to learn in a short period of time. With more and more egocentrism only children, this situation may become a common serious problem in the near future.

Living in a suppressed family or environment since childhood. They will exhibit two extreme behaviors in their sexual life. The second common situation is that some people have been living in a suppressed family or social environment since childhood, and their psychology is filled with a dark color. They will exhibit two extreme behaviors in their sexual life. On the one hand, due to a deep sense of inferiority that is difficult for others to perceive, they become overly sensitive to all the other party's behavior and easily believe that they have been sexually harmed. But they are never willing to show it to the other party because they often think it is a form of begging. On the other hand, in order to protect their inferiority complex, they often take offense and defend themselves sexually, blaming the other party for all their unhappiness and discomfort in sexual life, and even launching a holy war against the other party as a result. The common characteristic of these people is that they often use competitiveness to conceal their inferiority, or use indifference to maintain their self-esteem.

Due to various setbacks they have encountered before, some people also lack sufficient sense of security in their marital sexual life. The third common situation is that due to various setbacks encountered in life, some people even lack sufficient sense of security in their marital sexual life, seemingly always worrying about something, often leaving the other party at a loss and unsure of how to be considerate and caring. Although such people may not necessarily have low self-esteem, they often become suspicious. In today's social environment, they often watch each other's every move in social interaction with a hundred times vigilance, afraid of a third party flying from the sky. Once they think they have discovered any clues, they will use indifference or arguments to warn each other. But if they really get divorced because of this, they will be full of worries and unwilling to lose their current little sense of security.

These personality flaws mentioned above are extremely detrimental to the satisfaction of sexual life, and the more persistent they are, the more unfavorable they become. For the parties involved, self-awareness and self-improvement are necessary, while the other party needs to fully understand the current situation, or give all their help, or make a decision to break up after a long pain is better than a short one.

2、 Three methods to make sexual intercourse more satisfying for couples

1. Having sex and shaping marriage based on love as a prerequisite

Whether it is sex or marriage, its origin should be love. Only when two people have sexual intercourse and are in love with each other can they achieve maximum physical and emotional satisfaction. Marriage without love as the cornerstone cannot be happy, and sexual desire solely for the purpose of venting is also imperfect, even immoral, and cannot be satisfied with sex.

2. Couples should show mutual understanding and cooperation in sexual intercourse

Due to differences in physiological structures between men and women, the intensity of sexual demands is not entirely the same. Whether it is the degree of sexual pleasure, or the frequency and hobbies of sexual intercourse, it is impossible to be completely consistent. Couples should understand each other and not overly demand or force each other, otherwise there will be no sexual satisfaction. Moreover, in daily life, both spouses should learn about sex together, recognize and understand each other's hobbies and needs for sex and marriage, and strive to improve their ability to meet each other's needs.

3. Sincerely express one's love

Love not only needs to be done, but also needs to be spoken out loud. In sexual relationships, women often place more emphasis on emotional communication, which is confirmed by data from the 2011 Sex Happiness Survey Report: 74% of respondents believe that emotional communication during sexual intercourse is more important for women. The frequent "love expression" between couples can maintain their attraction to each other. The three words' I love you 'may be simple, but they have magical effects. Of course, when speaking, you should be sincere and not hypocritical or flattering. When you sincerely express your love, not only can you make the other person feel happy, but you will also experience happiness. Of course, in addition to language, non verbal forms such as kissing and caressing can also be used to express love.