What should children do if they accidentally encounter their parents for sex? How Parents Avoid Awkwardness and Provide Good Sexual Education

In China, when children are young, they usually live in the same room as their parents or even sleep in the same bed. Only when the child is 5-6 years old can they sleep in separate beds or rooms. Even if they live in separate rooms, children are likely to suddenly run into their parents' rooms and request to sleep together at night due to various excuses. Although parents dare to immerse themselves in their partner's embrace and enjoy their own sex after coaxing their children to sleep, the embarrassment of being accidentally hit by their children still occurs. Therefore, this issue has also become a headache for parents. In parent training, we often encounter parents asking, 'What should we do when a child collides with us while living a married life?' Next, I give parents some advice, which can not only solve awkwardness, but also provide good sex education:

1. Parents may feel startled, shy, or even angry. This was a very normal psychological reaction in the situation at that time, but it was important to digest this emotion as soon as possible, not only adjusting the body posture as soon as possible, but also shifting attention to the child as soon as possible.

2. If the child asks what you are doing? It indicates that they are completely unaware of this, which is a great opportunity for sex education. Based on the child's age, provide concise explanations in the language they know. This is also an unexpected event for the child, and they are not mentally prepared and should not be lengthy. The principle is to start with rhetorical questions, such as "What do you think we are doing?" to understand where the child's curiosity lies, rather than being stuck in the parent's own embarrassment about sex, making it difficult to speak up. If the child keeps asking, parents should also stop appropriately. Due to too much information, children cannot digest it in a timely manner, especially in the current state of their parents, who do not prepare their children for sex education. Therefore, utilizing children's curiosity can continue to educate them on sexual knowledge in the near future.

3. If the child does not speak and turns around to leave (turning to sleep), it indicates that the child feels uncomfortable in this scene. It is not yet known whether they really know about sex. At this point, parents should not actively communicate with their children. It is important to proactively understand children's understanding of sex in the near future and provide appropriate education on sexual knowledge.

4. If a child expresses negative emotions, the guardian must communicate with the child in a timely manner at the initial stage. It is best to understand the reasons for the negative reactions of the child. If the child refuses to communicate, parents should also actively express themselves, such as "we are not fighting; they are not bullying me; we have not done anything shameful; we are willing to do such things; we love each other, which is one of the ways adults express love; this is our privacy, we are not with you, we do not love you anymore", and so on. The purpose is to seize the opportunity, prevent or promptly correct children's negative attitudes towards sex, and even misconceptions.