Post Date December, 02 2023
What are men thinking about on the first date? Generally speaking, the first date is like a scheming old fox to a man. If you are rejected for the first time, don't think it is like a scene in an idol play. Men will stick to you like a piece of candy. They will only fight harder and harder. In fact, at this time, men may consider changing women to try their luck.
1、 Men want to get it done once
With the development of technology, we should have more time to fall in love, but the fact is that urban men and women not only need to work longer, but also the distance between their residence and work place is getting farther and farther. Some surveys even believe that the time for them to do whatever they want is only 22.3 minutes per day.
Among them, women need 21.2 minutes to determine what clothes to wear; A man needs 18.7 minutes to trim his hair and shave. The real idle time is 1.1 minutes and 3.6 minutes respectively. Of course, the above statements are exaggerated, but you have to admit that dating is a time-consuming thing.
In order to improve the hit rate, 57% of men met their other half through friends, 31% met at bars or parties, and 12% chose to date their work partners. Once a man wants to approach a woman, most of them will take the initiative to invite her. It is not difficult to achieve this step, as long as it is not timid or high self-esteem, it should be achieved in a relaxed mood.
72% of men set their first date at a restaurant and then watch a movie; 27% of people go hiking or do sports, and the remaining 1% will think of some unexpected ways.
If the first date goes well, the man will think that the relationship between the two can grow well next. On the contrary, if a woman is not impressed by her first date, she will disappear and never hear from her. Because of the habitual assumption that there is no second chance, men tend to be courteous on the first date.
Therefore, if the woman has the sincerity to accept the man, she should give a hint accordingly. If you are insensitive or hesitant, and can't convey the message of "I also think you are good" to the other party in time, and do not create conditions conducive to action for the men, maybe the relationship between the two people will not make progress eventually. To be blunt, there are more and more pampered men who are too shy and not good at contacting women. Such men often expect women to take the initiative.
When dating to a certain extent, men will first consider taking the relationship further. It is said that men are lower body animals. Some people even said that they always consider the time of kissing when dating. This is not excessive. 58% of men think that if we really fit in, there will be intimate contact on the first date, which will not reduce my love for her. 21% think three dates are better, and 21% think more than six dates. Generally speaking, when they have some kind of intimate intention, they will first want to understand each other's ideas, and also try to convey their good feelings to each other.
The first condition for close contact is mutual affection. Too bold. It's not good to be slapped by a woman or poured wine on the face in public. Men are definitely sensitive and scheming old foxes when it comes to testing women's minds.
When watching the movie, it is a common acting skill to pretend not to touch the woman's hand lightly, or to confirm her reaction with slight physical contact such as knee close to the woman's knee.
In the bar, sitting side by side with the bar counter has the same effect. Feel her attitude through seemingly accidental contact between shoulders. If the woman immediately pulls back her hand or knee, it can be concluded that she has no intention of further development, at least not yet. On the contrary, if she does not avoid it, it means there is a play. After confirmation, how to implement the action?
Extending the appointment time is the first priority. It is suggested to eat dessert after dinner, take a walk together, or send the woman home. Once such an invitation is put forward, it can basically be concluded that he is drunk. Can you accept the kiss, can you finally commit yourself? Several nights before the date, they have been simulating the action plan from the date of the night to the final conclusion, asking for advice from the iron friends, posting on the Internet, and deliberating when and where to kiss.
During the dating period, they racked their brains to consider the next step of behavior, so they were often absent-minded when speaking, and did not know the taste of the food in their mouth. Even if the women around them have entered a good time of heart-to-heart talk, they are often unaware of it.
The story of "Tram Man", which is very popular in Japan, is about an ordinary man who asked for advice on how to pursue the women he met on the Shinkansen on the largest BBS in Japan, and mobilized tens of thousands of netizens to make suggestions for it. Later, the real event was adapted into books, films, TV dramas, and plays. It can be seen that it is not easy for men to invite women, and it can become a very sympathetic topic between men.
2、 Men have simulated dating scenes in their minds for countless times
What clothes to wear, where to meet, how to greet, where to eat, what topics to talk about between meals, and then how to implement the next step, so repeatedly revise the plan, and constantly imagine whether it will succeed, often resulting in more nervousness. No matter what kind of psychological preparation, no matter what kind of simulation exercise, the actual date may not be as they wish.
For men and women who have a good feeling for each other but are in the stage of mutual exploration, it is a very delicate matter whether the timing and mentality of both sides are appropriate. They often miss the great opportunity because of the wrong interpretation of an expression. Even if the woman wants to, once she misses the opportunity, it is not easy to succeed. If the woman refuses to kiss or intimacy, what will the man do? Unfortunately, almost all men will not beg again, but simply give up.
Of course, there are also some persistent men who refuse to give up and try to get the other side, waiting for the opportunity to make a comeback. However, more often than not, men have been exhausted due to their good intentions in spirit, and their self-esteem has been hit by rejection, so they would rather give up in order not to suffer more harm.
Therefore, when you have the intention to get along with him, you should kiss or have intimate contact with him, even if you are not fully prepared for a time, you should try to make it clear and avoid misunderstanding. It is a pity to lose fate because you don't know the other party's original intention, to blindly believe that the other party has no sincerity and give up the relationship, or to avoid hurting your self-esteem, fear of failure, and not understand the other party's original intention, leading to missed opportunities. As long as you show yourself a little, everything will be as you wish. Unfortunately, some men and women who have a good feeling for each other eventually fall short.
It should be reminded that mutual affection is the primary condition for intimate contact between men and women. As long as the female friends reveal themselves a little, everything will come true.
(Intern editor: Huang Qianyi)
