Post Date December, 02 2023
The fate of the end of marriage does not necessarily lie with the couple, but more often comes from outside. A lot of people have had this experience of derailment, but many people stay in the mind derailment, not the actual derailment. Why do people abandon their loved ones to go with others? There is no answer to this question. The reasons for cheating are more than ten million.
As long as you pay your heart, I can do anything for you
This sentence has several meanings from the lover's mouth. First, you are not sincere enough for me, and I am not satisfied with what you have paid. Second, you have no reason to ask for my feelings, because you are not sincere. Third, the premise of my paying is that you must pay sincerely. But usually some lovers, when they hear the other party's words, will think it is a commitment to him. Only if they are sincere, the other party will also pay for themselves sincerely, and even marry him after divorce.
Finally, I found that this sentence can be advanced or retreated. That is, ask you to pay more, and then use this to prevaricate you at the critical time: because you don't have full sincerity, then don't blame me for retreating. The ambiguity of lovers when saying this sentence, and the strong contrast with the cold ending, will make people feel that extramarital affairs are a sharp sword.
There is no need to talk about money between us. The most important thing is the relationship between two people
There is a particularly interesting phenomenon. There is a rule. Someone told you that this is not the problem of money. In nine cases out of ten, this is the problem of money. To draw inferences from one example, lovers talk to you about emotional issues rather than money issues. It doesn't always mean that I should pay more affection to you, and not be stingy in front of you.
The intention of the other party is most likely to make you talk about her emotions. When you spend money on her, you should treat money as dung. Those who really care about emotions and money will never use such words to enlighten you, but do less or do not say.
I didn't think you were such a selfish person. I'm desperate for you
The person who blames the other party for selfishness is often dissatisfied with his own selfish intentions. Between lovers, selfishness and anti - selfishness are often questioned by selfishness. The lovers who really have feelings tend to think more of each other when they pay for happiness, which is common in happy marriages. In the world of extramarital affairs, it is difficult to do so. Because, extramarital affairs often have psychological barriers to pay, and do not regard lovers as a real lifelong dependence, so there will be more trade-offs in paying.
In addition, the impure emotion makes the payment more limited. If it is not to please the other party, or according to the principle of taking what you want first and giving what you give first, there are not many lovers who selflessly contribute in extramarital affairs. Limited pay is often the key to conflict between lovers. Because lovers sometimes come for benefits, which aggravates the balance between paying and getting. Such gains and losses are often linked with feelings, which makes the love in extramarital affairs become the bait for fishing, and makes the extramarital affairs become a shameful act.
I gave you everything I could. What else do you want
The anger in the world of extramarital affairs is a common behavior. For example, if you don't really love each other, you will often be jealous when the other person shows intimacy with other opposite sex. Why? First, because the relationship between extramarital affairs is itself a kind of derailment, and is extremely sensitive to another derailment. Second, because of the possessive desire, I feel that my privilege has been encroached upon, so I am angry.
In extramarital affairs, the party who does not really love and does not really want to marry the other party often does not directly express, say I love you, or promise to marry someone else. On the one hand, he is afraid that such commitment and expression will make him have no way out, and he is afraid that the contradiction will intensify immediately and bring bad consequences to himself. Therefore, we often take the middle way and use ambiguous words or substitute words to make the other party misunderstand and achieve psychological balance.
Through communicating with many consultants, I found that many people who were cheated attributed the reason for their final breakup to some objective reason. In fact, this is the effect caused by the cunning of the lover. At the critical moment, do not leave the handle of the conversation, do not aggravate the conflict, and then find the opportunity to let you have nothing to say, and would rather quit automatically.
