Post Date December, 02 2023
Marriage is fraught with crises at all times, perhaps not just out of physical sexuality, but emotionally reaching the point of being like glue. What causes mature men and women to fall into such an immoral relationship?
As long as you give your heart, I can do anything for you
This sentence comes from the lover's mouth and has several meanings. One is that you are not sincere enough for me, and I am not satisfied with what you have paid. The second is that you have no reason to ask for my emotions, because you are not sincere yourself. The premise of my giving is that you must truly give. However, usually some lovers, hearing this statement from the other party, will consider it a commitment to him. If only they are sincere, the other party will also sincerely pay for themselves, even if they divorce before marrying him.
Finally, I realized that this sentence can be advanced or retreated. That is, to ask you to pay more, and then, at a critical time, to use this to prevaricate with you: because you don't have full sincerity, then don't blame me for retreating. The ambiguity and confusion of a lover when saying this sentence, in contrast to the cold ending, can make people feel that an extramarital affair is a sharp sword that hurts others.
There's no need to talk about money between us. The most important thing between us is our relationship
There is a particularly interesting phenomenon. There is a rule that someone tells you when something happens. This is not a question of money or not, but in nine cases out of ten, this is the question of money. Drawing inferences from one example, lovers talk to you about emotional issues, not money issues. It's often not that I need to pay more affection to you and not be stingy with money in front of you.
The intention of the other party is most likely to make you speak emotionally to her, and when spending money on her, treat it like dirt. The kind of person who really cares about emotions and doesn't care about money will never use such words to enlighten you, but instead do less or don't say anything.
I didn't expect you to be such a selfish person. I despair of you
The person who blames the other person for being selfish is often dissatisfied with his own selfish intentions. Between lovers, the questioning of selfishness and anti selfishness is often held in esteem by selfishness. "But true lovers who have emotions often regard giving as happiness and think more about each other, which is common in happy marriages.". In the world of extramarital affairs, it is difficult to do so. Because extramarital affairs often have psychological barriers to paying, and do not treat their lovers as true lifelong dependencies, there will be more trade-offs in paying.
Coupled with the lack of emotional purity, giving becomes even more limited. If it is not for the sake of pleasing the other party, or in accordance with the principle of taking what you want first and giving what you give first, there are not many lovers who selflessly contribute in extramarital affairs. Limited effort is often the key to conflict between lovers. Because lovers sometimes come for profit, exacerbating the trade-off between giving and getting. This gain or loss of interest is often linked to the presence or absence of emotions, which makes extramarital love a bait for fishing and makes it a shameful act.
I gave you everything I could. What else do you want
The anger in the world of extramarital affairs is a frequent behavior. For example, the issue of jealousy, even if you don't really love each other, when the other person shows intimacy with other members of the opposite sex, you will often be jealous. Why? One reason is that the relationship between extramarital affairs is itself a form of infidelity and is extremely sensitive to further infidelity. The second reason is that because of possessive desire, they feel that their privileges have been encroached upon, so they are angry.
In an extramarital affair, the one who does not really love and does not really want to marry the other party often does not express directly that he loves you or promises to marry someone else. On the one hand, he is afraid that such commitment and expression will lead to no retreat, and when he speaks the truth, he is afraid that the conflict will escalate immediately, causing adverse consequences for himself. Therefore, we often take the middle path and use ambiguous words or substitute words to make the other party misunderstand and achieve psychological balance.
Through communicating with many consultants, I have found that many deceived people attribute the reason for their eventual breakup to some objective reason. In fact, this is the effect caused by the cunning of the lover. At critical moments, do not leave the conversation behind, do not exacerbate conflicts, and then find opportunities to leave you speechless, preferring to automatically exit.
I really want to go with you and leave this suffocating environment
At the beginning of an extramarital affair, this sentence can easily capture the other person's heart. When the relationship between lovers reaches a certain level, saying this sentence often allows lovers to experience warmth and romance. But in this sentence, there is a hint of a special meaning hidden. That is, our emotions actually have no way out, and if we want to stay together for a long time or truly come together, it's just too romantic and unrealistic.
Because lovers seek survival in darkness and crevices, and in a bright world, they have no place to stand, afraid of the cruelty of reality, which leads to this overly romantic vision and perception. If rational people are not tempted by extramarital affairs, only those who are restless and irrational will fall into extramarital affairs, and eventually return to normal life with wounds all over their bodies, or stay in pain, or never return to the destructive reality.
