Post Date December, 03 2023
1. Thinking about problems
The thinking logic of men is straight. This means that they are not like women who perform multitasking tasks, and it is difficult for them to move on to the next problem before solving it. Therefore, if he remains silent at home, it is possible that he is in a predicament simply because his brain is still thinking about work and trying to come up with a solution.
2. Don't want to be too emotional
Think about it: Men have been taught from a young age that when they are injured, they should be brave and not show great pain. After a man starts dating, a woman conveys that 'not expressing her emotions is not good'. Men are not only unprepared to express their emotions, but also feel completely frustrated by these contradictory messages. Julie said, "Showing one's emotions is terrifying for men
What makes men feel scary is not just about disarming. You may also reveal your deepest emotions when discussing an important matter, but he doesn't know how to comfort you. A writer once said, "Men are not only afraid of their own emotions, they are also afraid of facing the emotions of their beloved partner." Many men have been taught from childhood to adulthood that they must get rid of their own emotions. Therefore, when girlfriends appear emotional or encourage them to express their inner thoughts, they may appear somewhat at a loss.
If you feel that your boyfriend is afraid to express his feelings, you can change him by taking certain actions. Firstly, be tolerant of him and follow his approach. Only when women don't give ultimatum or criticize him for not understanding communication can they really help him open his heart. Many men know how to compromise when talking about relationships, but they need time.
3. Protest rambling
Women like to establish and strengthen relationships through conversation, while at home they like to show their leadership status and show concern for men through gossip. Men don't think so. No matter how eloquent and articulate they are before marriage, married men are more willing to directly express their specific wishes, such as "I want to go out to dinner with you tonight", "I want to rest", and "I need a meeting".
However, women can't bear it anymore. The more men behave like this, the more women have something to say. Many times, due to women's chatter, the noisy sky at home and outside is no different. Men often appear more rational than women at this time, and when faced with women's gossip, they will not directly refute it - that is undoubtedly throwing a bomb at home; He wouldn't scold roughly either - it would undoubtedly be a trapped animal fighting with half the effort.
Many men are accustomed to choosing silence. On the one hand, they use silence to express their emotions, thoughts, and attitudes at the time, and on the other hand, they intentionally use silence to maintain a distance between each other, which can cause women to feel particularly hurt. Women often say 'they have no emotions, they are simply cold blooded', which is actually a misunderstanding. Married men are more accustomed to communicating their emotions and admiration with their hearts. The more a woman talks, the farther away a man will be from you. Although he is silent, a "protective wall" has been erected in his heart.
4. Adjusting the body and mind
Boys have received "backbone" education from a young age, such as conquering the world, standing tall, and taking responsibility. When they grow up, no matter how helpless exhaustion they face, how difficult setbacks they face, how cruel blows they face, how heavy a burden they bear, how enormous a pressure they face... They cannot be released through crying, washed away through tears, or vented through confidences like women.
The only thing they can do is remain silent. Reflect in silence, recuperate in silence, gather momentum in silence, lick wounds in silence.
Therefore, when a man drags his heavy footsteps back home, sits on the sofa without saying a word, or turns a deaf ear to your words, you must not dictate, make trouble, fantasize, or even ask for advice. Perhaps he has just finished a conversation with a client and is exhausted, or he is facing setbacks in his life and career, feeling hurt, exhausted, and exhausted. At this moment, his silence was for the purpose of recuperation, and he gained new life in silence. At this point, you might as well give him an hour to say "goodbye" to his daytime work completely, and he may show amazing interest in any of your questions afterwards.
A special reminder here is that when a man is physically and mentally tired, if he is still interested in watching TV, do not turn off the TV while he is watching news broadcasts, and then say with concern, "If you are tired, rest early. What else are you watching TV?" It should be noted that career oriented men are mostly concerned about politics, and your "care and care" can only backfire. But you can insert some comfort words in the gaps of the advertising program.
5. Plan and strategize
You often find the man you are familiar with, talking and laughing, suddenly silent; It was hot and noisy at home, but he sat on the sofa in a daze; You passionately threw a string of words at him, and he was unconscious.
In fact, at this moment, silence and daze are just the appearance of a man's expression. Perhaps his mind is thinking of some strange idea, or thinking about some strange problem, or something has triggered his inspiration. When he entered a state of silent contemplation, it was a state similar to 'closed cultivation'.
They do not want anyone to pull him out of his state of contemplation, let alone someone to interrupt or disturb him in silence for 'cultivation'. If at this point, you can't help but be curious, impulsive, or concerned, and ask him one question or another, such as, what are you thinking and say that I can help you advise? Or do you have anything to say? Did you hear my question? It's like asking for trouble.
In the eyes of men, all concerned, thoughtful, kind, and curious questions at this moment are like buzzing flies, disturbing the tranquility. At this point, you might as well become a silent attendant. The relaxed atmosphere you provide in a timely manner will not only greatly shorten his silence time, but also make him grateful to you.
