Post Date December, 02 2023
I am a divorced man, 39 years old this year. I fell in love with a woman with a family before. I was with her for over two years, and she left her hometown to work in Guangdong. Because all the expenses at home were handled by this woman, and because this woman does sauna and massage, we got to know each other this way.
Then I lived with her and took care of her daily life and diet. Later on, I learned that she was ill, and I was not afraid to take her to major hospitals for treatment. Although it was hard, we were still happy.
She also said that after her son's college entrance examination, she will divorce and marry me. Later on, she wanted to go home for development, and I even went to her house to help her see what business was good for her, so that she could get rid of her previously unremarkable job.
But recently she said she wants to break up with me and won't divorce and marry me. Have I always been used by her? How should I choose?
reply:
As a man who has already reached the age of 40 and has been divorced once, your life should have been more mature and dignified, and you should have more wisdom and judgment about life. However, your actions are truly admirable.
In a sauna massage parlor, you met a massage girl with a family who was engaged in a bad profession, and then you fell in love with her. Do you think it's reliable? Are you really lacking women that much? Do you really want to be a humanitarian savior, or do you stop by here and do some weeding and rabbit hunting?
I don't want to doubt that you have truly devoted yourself to this woman, but I question the lowliness, cowardice, lack of value, and even anger of your love. Think carefully, why are you being used by this woman? It's not how cunning and insidious this woman is, but rather that you are not clean minded yourself. It's me who met you in that kind of place, and I will also use you. You come to a place like this to entertain me, and I live in such a place to earn money and spend money. Why don't I use you? Am I really going to have sex with you!
For this reason, you are just a silly hat, still asking how to choose? You said how to choose, did you choose to let her continue to use and deceive you for a second time? Wake up, don't easily love a woman, nor casually love. Love requires a choice, and love also needs to be responsible for each other. Otherwise, it is a form of profanity and defilement, and ultimately it will not be happy and complete.
