Post Date December, 03 2023
Q:
I met my husband in 2007 and it has been difficult to manage my marriage since then. Our families were in some trouble at that time, and we have formed a bond of mutual comfort and support. My husband gives people the impression that he is quite worldly, he understands people's hearts very well, and is also good at socializing with people.
These are all the things I really appreciated about him at the beginning, but after getting married, this has also become my biggest headache. He is good at women and all kinds of women want to try it out. He has never been single minded, and he will not shy away from criticizing other women in front of me. Those women who come into contact with in business, whether they are clients, partners, competitors, or women who meet at dinner tables, whether they are young or elderly, will be included in his list if they have a slight appearance.
From the first few years of resistance to the present, my heart has turned to ashes. His extraordinary behavior has made me unable to bear to look down on my own child. The child has refused to say a word to him since the year before last, refusing to recognize this father. Despite this, he remains the same, completely unrestrained, and does not take my feelings and those of the child seriously.
I once suspected that he had a sexual addiction and consulted experts from a male hospital, but I did not come to see him. Based solely on my description, the experts did not provide a plan or draw a conclusion. I have tried multiple times to persuade him to change this way of life, and I hope he can face up to this problem. Frequent changes in women simply cannot satisfy him. He doesn't understand what he is chasing, and I think this is a disease. He never listens to advice.
His affairs have completely affected the children. If it's just me, I don't care. Because I've been through a lot together, I don't have any thoughts of divorce. I've hated and resented before, but now I'm just making do with it. But the child obviously couldn't make it. He now has a strong hatred towards his father, and on the contrary, the child has shown great rejection and disgust towards the opposite sex. He dislikes the opposite sex and even bullies female classmates in school. Some of the child's actions have surprised me, which makes me very uneasy.
I don't want him to grow into a promiscuous person like his father, but I also don't want him to go to another extreme. I am very helpless. I want to know if there is any way for someone like my husband to become normal? Is there still a way for families like ours to provide a healthy growth environment for their children?
Answer:
The husband has long-term and frequent extramarital affairs, and the wife often appears to have a muddled mentality after experiencing various attempts. Even a large proportion of wives choose to endure the misfortunes of marriage for their children, but as their children grow, they are not unaware of the behavior and emotions of adults. These negative energies will be transmitted to the next generation, causing irreversible effects on their growth.
Please bear in mind that all parents must live a happy, happy, and open-minded life in order to convey the same outlook on life and the world to their children. If you are in misfortune, children cannot feel joy from the bottom of their hearts. Therefore, it is never time for you to give up on marriage talks. You need to regain your happiness in the second half of your life and the future of your child. Please take heart. You may have tried your best through your own efforts, but that's just an attempt you can make as a wife. It's not an effective way to save your marriage. We can help you. Based on your husband's behavior over the years, it takes a lot of work to bring him back physically and mentally. Could you please provide more detailed information about him, This includes your first discovery of his extramarital behavior and his reaction, as well as the most intense conflicts in marriage, his recent trends, and so on. Based on these situations, we will help you develop a detailed and practical plan for separation, emotional recovery, and parent-child relationship reconstruction.
