Post Date December, 02 2023
My boyfriend and I are high school alumni, but we have only been dating for two years. During these two years, he has been very kind to me, and I am his first girlfriend. But later on, I found out that he was not motivated. He was a credit card holder, but he always stayed at home and didn't go out. How can he make money by running business without going out?
Not long ago, there was something at home and I went back to my hometown. For several consecutive mornings, I called him and he was sleeping. It was already around 11 o'clock and almost 12 o'clock. Once, I was too angry and I said I would break up with him. Of course, he didn't agree, but I blacked out all his contact information. We both love each other in our hearts, which is certain.
But on that day, he was chatting with a woman, and while chatting with her, he took the initiative to start chatting. He even interacted with her and opened a video. I don't know what their voice chat was in the video, but looking at the typing records was very unattractive. For example, looking at your chest, it's so big, I really want to kiss it, and so on.
They started chatting every day from that day on, sometimes just plain talking without being coquettish, but they all played videos until we reconciled a few days ago and discovered him before we stopped chatting. His explanation to me was that he was too sad when I broke up with him! Before, he never had any more ambiguous conversations with other women. Anyway, there was really no problem with his relationship, but now I feel very uncomfortable. Looking back on how he talked about those disgusting obscene words with others, I feel particularly uncomfortable and easy to cry.
Now as soon as he chats with me, I bring up this matter. He's also annoyed, but I feel very sad myself. I think before going to bed, and when I wake up, I'm really going to collapse. Every word of those disgusting words hurts me. How can I forget to stop thinking about those conversations? How to accept him? I am still in my hometown and haven't been with him yet. I chat on WeChat every day, which is particularly uncomfortable and even worse than breaking up! I am the kind of woman who cannot tolerate sand, really don't know what to do? But I don't want to break up, Sam. Helpme
reply:
In terms of love, spending two years together is not very long, but it is also not short. We should have a good understanding of each other, and there must be some emotional foundation. Moreover, from your words, you can know that you love each other, at least you love them and care about them. Otherwise, you wouldn't be so painful and entangled. You just can't stand your boyfriend's lack of ambition. You say he's too homey and doesn't go out to do business. If you can't bear this situation, you need to be patient and communicate with him. After all, he has this habit for more than a day or two. Moreover, if he can earn money, or if he may need to go out for a few days every month to earn monthly income, you don't need to be too stubborn. After all, you are in the love stage now, don't react too strongly like a passing daughter-in-law. You have been together for two years, and you should be very clear about whether he loves his work and work habits. If he does not do well, communicate more and give him some advice to slowly adjust.
And you used to break up with him in a petty way, which led to him chatting with other women, and in the end, his lewd and shameless side made you deeply hurt. Since you feel disgusted by his behavior, why bother to force yourself to accept him? The reason why you can't let him go is partly because you do still love him, and partly because you feel that his chatting with others is caused by you, so you feel a bit uncomfortable in your heart. However, what I want to say is that although your boyfriend is always good in your eyes, the fact that he chatted with other women is enough to show that he has a very unkind side in his life. At least, when facing certain disappointments in life, he is prone to corrupt thoughts and behavior, and he is not a relatively mature man.
One thing young men and women should understand when dealing with relationships is that when two people fall in love together, they must be happy and comfortable. If it is very difficult to be together, then it is better not to have this relationship, otherwise what is the meaning of it. The right to choose now lies in your own hands. If you don't want to break up, choose to tolerate him, tolerate the mistakes he has made before. As long as he is willing to repent, you can give him a chance; If you can't tolerate what he's doing and can't get by, then separating may be the best choice. For this, try giving yourself some time. The best medicine for forgetting the harm caused by others may be time.
